charmed59 is offline charmed59 Post #51  February 1,2012, 7:02am
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The great thing about getting advice on your profile on eHa is that you get a wide ranging array of ideas. However, it is possible that the collective we, no matter how well intentioned we are, would fall into the category of "not your type". So you may have been tweaking your profile toward us, and not toward those ladies that are your type.

I'd suggest you find a girlfriend of a friend of yours, or a cousin, or sister who would be your type other than the obvious. Have them look over your profile and see if the things that would attract them to some one like you grab their attention.
 
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I know people like to be someone else's first choice. But profiles aren't people. Do you really expect your profile would make your intended immediately close everyone else and poof on all matches they are presently in communication with? I wouldn't worry about the "back burner" aspect of long GC periods. Once you meet, that's when it becomes apparent whether you are a real match.
 
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I know people like to be someone else's first choice. But profiles aren't people. Do you really expect your profile would make your intended immediately close everyone else and poof on all matches they are presently in communication with? I wouldn't worry about the "back burner" aspect of long GC periods. Once you meet, that's when it becomes apparent whether you are a real match.
That's your choice and your right of course...but I don't want to keep my EH subscription going for months having sporadic communication with someone who really isn't that interested. I want to talk or meet early on and not build up a text/email relationship.
 
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4disney wrote :
It is now my personal rule to close anyone who wants extended GC without setting something up or exchanging numbers in 2-3 emails. I have run into a pattern of guys who want an e-mail pal or whatever to string me along. I don't want to be back burnnered and find it to be a stalling technique.

I am not paying $ to have a pen pal, I want more than that or obviously I wouldn't be on EH in the first place.
This is a sensible rule except I'd actually talk about phone number exchanging during the 1st email.

And I would never meet anyone without a pre meeting phone number exchange. No number exchanging means they aren't investing and can 'flake' or not turn up with little risk of embarrasement.
 
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Um, she didn't want to give me her phone number. I get the impression that she won't give it out until she meets someone in person and then likes that person. I did ask and volunteer mine...
Personally, I would not meet someone who refused to give me their number. If safety is that much of an issue for said person considering that I would most likely meet someone in a public establishment, then perhaps online dating isn't a good option for them.

As for delayed response communication, I am not a fan of it nor have I seen positive results from it. But, since everyone has his/her own method to his/her madness, I would say take a chance and proceed with the date. Hopefully, the both of you will hit it off. If not, then never accept delayed response communication with someone who is overly cautious again.

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