What are these "dating skills" you speak of?

Hello

It has come to my attention in a variety of threads people discuss poofing, proper etiquette, what they liked, didn't like about their partner, whether they were too green, too pink, etc.

I was wondering what are some rules you had to learn the hard way that you now use to succeed? By succeed I mean not getting hurt and enjoying this process. Because I'm not. I am starting to dislike it very, very much.

cheers

I was wondering what are some rules you had to learn the hard way that you now use to succeed? By succeed I mean not getting hurt and enjoying this process. Because I'm not.

I met a man from eHA, the first date went really well.
The third date we went to his place, ended up talking, sharing about our past again.

We made out and discussed that we both disagree with the third date rule or becoming physical too soon. He did initiate the making out a lot though, so I could sense that he was attracted.
We seemed to connect, but it's been over a week and he has not called or texted.

in terms of rules....

be realastic, stop living in a fantasy.

You never know for sure until you meet face to face no matter how great emails or phone callas or IMs or skype is.

Love at first sight is a fallacy. Remember you havent met them before so be fair on a first meeting. Unlike the previous ways of dating you usually met with the person first , talked a little bit, then one asked the other out for a date. With online its switched around. If the conversation is good and no obvious red flags...have a second date before you judge. There are many examples of love comming after a first date.

For a first meeting make it simple..no all day date. Do coffee, or lunch, or meet up at a museum...something there is an easy out for the date.

With online dating....never assume you are the only one he is talking to...or for that matter dating. Think of you are in a competition so you waiting to decide to date him you may lose him to someone else. It will happen where they "poof" on you and it has nothing to do with you--honestly---nothing. Its because they are farther alone in a relationship with someone else or moved faster with someone else so they decided to persue themn over you.


You will have dates where you think everything was great but no second date and you will wonder why...its not you its them.

When online...dont fall into the "grass is greener" problem. Many see all these matches to choose from and they see one they like then they look and see another and think its better, but its not. This behavior is similar to shopping behavior.

With profiles dont be too shallow or too picky. Pictures only give you an idea of what they look like but they can easily look worse in person or look more attractive in person...so dont be so quick to judge.

For a first meeting make it simple..no all day date. Do coffee, or lunch, or meet up at a museum...something there is an easy out for the date.

be realistic, stop living in a fantasy.

Love at first sight is a fallacy.

When online...don't fall into the "grass is greener"

so dont be so quick to judge.