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I'm answer an eH question about "How would you spend a romantic evening with someone you have been dating for more than one year?" and I'm coming up blank! I've been thinking about it since last night. I'm pretty clueless in the "create romance" department seeing as I haven't dated anybody for over a year in ummm a long time. I'm usually more of a "show you care about them" kind of person on a daily basis, so doing a special occasion display of affection is not something I've ever done before.

The only thing I came up with was cooking a nice dinner at home followed by some sexy time. But I'm not sure that would be a "special occasion" activity.

Anybody have any good ideas? Or should I just say what I said above? That I always try to keep romance going by leaving little notes on the bathroom mirror or in their pocket, or doing nice things for them without them asking?
 
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I am surprised that you received that question from a guy. I was always under the impression that men typically don't desire a sweeping romantic gesture from women. I realize this is a complete generalization of course, but I'm still surprised.

I guess I would answer it with going out to his favorite restaurant or cooking his favorite meal, followed by a nice massage and a little bow chicka wow wow (his fave position? that thing you never let him do?). That is a good question, what do guys find romantic?
 
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Aargh, my post has been modded. And I thought I was being good in it.
 
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I know this will sound lame...but I don't think using our answers would be wise...this needs to come all from you..

I will say, that I used to not try so hard to come up with the 'perfect' answer...but spontaneously put what popped into my head as if we are sitting across from one another...

I think your answer about keeping things romantic is great...

Keep the sex talk out of things until you are ready to have sex with someone...
 
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generallyyou wrote :
I am surprised that you received that question from a guy. I was always under the impression that men typically don't desire a sweeping romantic gesture from women. I realize this is a complete generalization of course, but I'm still surprised.
When I first signed up, this was one of my standard questions. Of course many guys like romantic evenings. I dropped it because 90% of the time the answers didn't yield any valuable information that either enticed me or caused me to NEXT a lady.

EharmonyJC, how about--

I'm usually more of a "show you care about them" kind of person on a daily basis, so doing a special occasion display of affection is not something I've ever done before.

An authentic, heartfelt answer always impresses me. If the real you freaks him out then he's probably not a great match for you anyway! If you're open to trying to be more romantic, maybe add, "but I'm open to trying!"
 
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That is a good question, what do guys find romantic?
There are a gazillion romantic comedies out there. Watch one.

(Make sure it's not one that makes your guy friends groan loudly when you mention it!)
 
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One thing I really dislike about the open ended questions is that the answers often depend on who your partner is. What if she answers something like "cooking dinner," but it turns out his most romantic idea is ordering in Thai food and watching a movie? This is a question she most assuredly would get right after a year long relationship, but these questions almost set us up to fail, you know?

Like the 3 best traits to bring to a relationship question. Every person needs something different, how do I know which 3 of my traits would best enhance the relationship if I still don't know what he is bringing to the table?
 
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I used to get this question quite often and I never took it to mean as what would "I" do for him, but rather what would "we" enjoy doing to break up the monotony of the usual routine that relationships tend to fall into. So when you look at it from that perspective, cook dinner at home/go out to the usual restaurant, watch some boring movie and some sexy time is what long standing relationships tend to fall into as a routine. So, what would you do to break up that routine?
 
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Ingytravel wrote :
I know this will sound lame...but I don't think using our answers would be wise...this needs to come all from you..

I will say, that I used to not try so hard to come up with the 'perfect' answer...but spontaneously put what popped into my head as if we are sitting across from one another...

I think your answer about keeping things romantic is great...

Keep the sex talk out of things until you are ready to have sex with someone...
I agree with this!
 
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shapeShifter79 wrote :
There are a gazillion romantic comedies out there. Watch one.

(Make sure it's not one that makes your guy friends groan loudly when you mention it!)
Examples please.
 
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