ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #41  January 11,2012, 5:02pm
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I am surprised that you received that question from a guy. I was always under the impression that men typically don't desire a sweeping romantic gesture from women. I realize this is a complete generalization of course, but I'm still surprised.

I guess I would answer it with going out to his favorite restaurant or cooking his favorite meal, followed by a nice massage and a little bow chicka wow wow (his fave position? that thing you never let him do?). That is a good question, what do guys find romantic?

Actually some men would ask this because it would demonstrate an aspect of her personality that he does or doesnt want.

He may have had a bad experience with a prior GF who went all ballistic on him because he forgot a one year anniversary of them dating.
 
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I have no idea what I would do just for one evening, that's the problem. I can think of things like going away to the mountains for the weekend or something, but the question says evening. The last time I had a long term boyfriend was in college and the cooking dinner at home alone WAS what we did, since we usually were hanging out at his house (with his 3 roommates) LOL I've never had to deal with a "grown up" relationship before.

Here's what I have so far:

"I tend to try to show my partner I care about them on a daily basis versus doing a few grand gestures every now and then. I like to leave notes on the bathroom mirror or in their pocket, or do little nice things for them regularly that show I listen and care.

But, cooking dinner/dessert at home, eat by candlelight (even if it's at the coffee table!), then followed by sexy time is always romantic and I like to do that often! "
Look at it from what would you find romantic to do on some special anniverary. Some people may want to take a vacation some where. Some want to go out to some nice restaurant, some will just cook at home, and some may want to get sentimental and go to the place their first date was.
 
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generallyyou wrote :
One thing I really dislike about the open ended questions is that the answers often depend on who your partner is. What if she answers something like "cooking dinner," but it turns out his most romantic idea is ordering in Thai food and watching a movie? This is a question she most assuredly would get right after a year long relationship, but these questions almost set us up to fail, you know?

Like the 3 best traits to bring to a relationship question. Every person needs something different, how do I know which 3 of my traits would best enhance the relationship if I still don't know what he is bringing to the table?
How about having a nice meal and good conversation. That is pretty open ended as far as cooking or take out or what ever
 
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generallyyou wrote :
One thing I really dislike about the open ended questions is that the answers often depend on who your partner is. What if she answers something like "cooking dinner," but it turns out his most romantic idea is ordering in Thai food and watching a movie? This is a question she most assuredly would get right after a year long relationship, but these questions almost set us up to fail, you know?

Like the 3 best traits to bring to a relationship question. Every person needs something different, how do I know which 3 of my traits would best enhance the relationship if I still don't know what he is bringing to the table?
I agree. I often have a hard time answering in abstract because I agree that general scenarios take on different meanings depending on the partner so I would reference such. For example I remember often getting the question about how I would help my partner unwind after a stressful day (or however that is worded) and I always chose the 'other' option saying that I would take the time to get to know my partner and would do what I thought they would most enjoy in the situation.
 
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Well I guess what I wrote was ok. He started OC and said he liked my answers in the third set of questions and wants to get to know me better. I gave him my # so we'll see where it goes! Carry on w/ the thread though, I like hearing everyone's different thoughts/opinions on the questions!
 
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I guess I can chime in with romantic comedies - I own Garden State, Princess Bride, When Harry Met Sally, and 500 Days of Summer... so one of those I guess? I also like Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind but its more of a tearjerker then a comedy (then again, a lot of women seem to love the ocean of melodrama known as the Notebook)...

No one has ever asked me that question in GC...

If I ever want to get closed, I've considered asking "how fat do you weigh?" but never had the heart to do it.
 
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