itswhatev is offline itswhatev Post #11  January 10,2012, 10:22pm
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I would like to read some poof stories. Mine are tame and boring, so I won't bother sharing. But I'm willing to share in others' misery!
Or you could tell us when you poofed someone... Lol. Would be interesting to hear reasons from the other side of the coin.
 
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just read these boards for awhile. You will hear of plenty of people poofing on established relationships with no explanation, after sex, after many dates and investments of feelings, emotions, time and money. I'd choose your story over most of those and most of the ones I've experienced myself.
 
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Sorry that happened OP. People can be downright rude/awful/pickone. I am going to start a new post this morning. Because I feel that there are a number of people that could use the information I found yesterday. I was prompted to do the search after a fantastic discussion with a very, very good friend of mine. But it would apply equally well to dating. Please take the time to read it.
 
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Sounds more like she thought you poofed...since she did not hear from you in a timely manner. The rest goes without saying.. No FB, no borrowing / lending. etc.
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Over break I was sorta loosely in touch - I chatted with her before I got back into town and we set up a date for the Saturday after new years. The day before our date, I text her
 
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itswhatev wrote :
Or you could tell us when you poofed someone... Lol. Would be interesting to hear reasons from the other side of the coin.
I've never poofed.
 
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I'm sorry you got your feelings hurt. But I'm thinking you are pretty young. That is by far NOT the worst poof ever. I don't mean to rub it in but that is NOTHING compared to what many people experience after sharing much worse than just a book.
Since you think that the OP's poofing experience was not so bad and are basing that on his being young why don't you give us some examples that are, in you opinion, worse.

Or maybe the reason you don't find this so bad is because you are the girl in the OP's example and you find borrowing something from someone and not returning it to be appropriate behavior.
 
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She's rude for not returning something borrowed, but let's be serious, we're talking about a book that's $2.94 + shipping used / $21.84 new. That's less than many first dates. I've never had a painful poof, but if I wouldn't have considered this one. As far as lending, I only lend what I could afford to lose, and that's true whether we're talking a first date, a tenth date, or even a good friend.
 
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She's rude for not returning something borrowed, but let's be serious, we're talking about a book that's $2.94 + shipping used / $21.84 new. That's less than many first dates. I've never had a painful poof, but if I wouldn't have considered this one. As far as lending, I only lend what I could afford to lose, and that's true whether we're talking a first date, a tenth date, or even a good friend.
I think you're missing the point. Like I said, this when I first started dating so i took a lot of this personally. I felt bad not because of the loss of the book, but the absolute disrespect for my time, dignity, and personal property. Nowadays, I accept it as a fact of life that some people are incapable of being mature adults, but still - under no circumstances is this acceptable behavior.
 
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nv1983 wrote :
I think you're missing the point. Like I said, this when I first started dating so i took a lot of this personally. I felt bad not because of the loss of the book, but the absolute disrespect for my time, dignity, and personal property. Nowadays, I accept it as a fact of life that some people are incapable of being mature adults, but still - under no circumstances is this acceptable behavior.
I hear you, NV. Sure, it's not the "worst poof ever" by general standards - but it still stings when it happens to you. Especially when you're not expecting it and it comes out of the blue. No matter how old I get, I still manage to get disappointed when people don't act in ways that I would expect them to.

As for the bolded part, I like to sum this up in a 2 word motto: People suck.
 
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nv1983 wrote :
I think you're missing the point. Like I said, this when I first started dating so i took a lot of this personally. I felt bad not because of the loss of the book, but the absolute disrespect for my time, dignity, and personal property. Nowadays, I accept it as a fact of life that some people are incapable of being mature adults, but still - under no circumstances is this acceptable behavior.
Agreed. The issue is not money. She behaved badly! (Had to resist saying, "...and should be spanked!")

Still, I feel your pain when people are rude and thoughtless.
 
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