Holiday_HH is offline Holiday_HH Post #1  January 10,2012, 6:39pm
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... Went on a day date on Saturday. Went well - chemistry (on my end at least) great conversation! It ended with a great hug and a "let's do this again" (from him). Now it's Tuesday...aaand nothing. No e-mail, no text, no phone call. Nada. Why? Why? Why? Why say "let's do this again" if you don't want to??

That's all. Just needed to get that out.
 
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Faraday is offline Faraday Post #2  January 10,2012, 6:46pm
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And that's why you date more than one person at a time...then if you don't hear from one of them ...you have someone else to distract you .
 
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Holiday_HH is offline Holiday_HH Post #3  January 10,2012, 6:47pm
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Faraday wrote :
And that's why you date more than one person at a time...then if you don't hear from one of them ...you have someone else to distract you .
Fair point!
 
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Have you tried to communicate with him? He may be thinking the same thing!
 
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VB_Girl wrote :
Have you tried to communicate with him? He may be thinking the same thing!
Yeah - I sent him a text on Sunday (thanks for dinner! We should do it again soon!)
And nothing.
 
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Yeah - I sent him a text on Sunday (thanks for dinner! We should do it again soon!)
And nothing.
At least you tried! Better luck next time.
 
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I guess this is a common thing to do with online dating, people just disappear if they aren't interested. It isn't a real loss or anything (who wants to date someone who isn't interested in them?) but it does suck to wonder for a couple of days if you will get a call. I'm sorry.
 
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Faraday wrote :
And that's why you date more than one person at a time...then if you don't hear from one of them ...you have someone else to distract you .
+1!

Until it's clear you're in a relationship, enjoy mingling.
 
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jme21 is offline jme21 Post #9  January 10,2012, 9:37pm
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I'm a guy and I've had the same experiences after amazing dates where it felt like there was great chemistry between us. I've learned that actions speak louder than words and expectations lead to disappointment so it's best to take things one day at a time and with a grain of salt.
 
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generallyyou wrote :
I guess this is a common thing to do with online dating, people just disappear if they aren't interested. It isn't a real loss or anything (who wants to date someone who isn't interested in them?) but it does suck to wonder for a couple of days if you will get a call. I'm sorry.
It was poor form to suggest that you should do this again. He should have said nice meeting you, and left it at that. Guys (and women too) get flustered at the end of the date though, and sometimes say more than they really ought to.

Be that as it may, this is, and always has been, a part of dating. It has nothing to do with being online. Back in the days of yore, women sat by the phone waiting for calls that never came while the guy was out gallivanting with his next conquest/victim/date. I'm sure guys experienced the same thing too. Goodness knows that after the first few expletive-laden "You aren't all that!" responses when I politely declined some stranger's date requests, I quickly learned to take their number, or for the more cynical who insisted that they would call me, to dole out fake phone numbers. Did that this evening in fact. Popped into the library to pick something up. The guy in line behind me asked me out. I claimed I had a boyfriend so couldn't. He said he didn't care. I said well, my boyfriend would mind. He countered with, it's not serious enough to warrant a ring. Let me treat you to dinner. Asked for my number. I suggested he give me his instead. I was clear from the outset that I wasn't interested. I'm sure he understands I have no intention of calling, but really didn't want to get into an argument.

Welcome back to dating! Nothing changed in basic human interactions while you were away from the scene.
 
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