Ingytravel is offline Ingytravel Post #41  January 11,2012, 12:48pm
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EccentricAmbiguity wrote :
I see. I still think overthinking our own instincts won't attract likeminded people. IMHO.

I agree...I was just having some fun with that last post

I've already said even in my first post to the OP that I don't think what she wrote had any bearing on this guy not calling her or asking her out again...
 
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I agree with EccentricAmbiguity we overthink things to the nth degree about why they haven't called yet and the only person who could answer that for you is the guy. Regardless of whether he has contacted you yet or not I am sure he is thinking of you. In what way you say? In the respect that wow, I really need to call her and get together again, but I am so busy or too bad that didn't work out for me, I hope she meets someone else.
 
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EccentricAmbiguity wrote :
This is why I think people should just follow their instincts. Because honestly, I would never go on in such a formal way like ingy did...that would not be me. I would not be like "thanks for the discussion on xyz" thats not my style at all!! I think her text was totally appropriate especially for people who text a lot, yes it was short and simple but if he had texted back it could have become a more in depth convo...
Agree with this. As a big texter, my texts tend to be short, informal, and light. The point is that I thank him for the evening (since he treated) and tell him I look forward to seeing him again. (Typically he's already asked for a second date.) Depending on how excited we both were and what he's said to that point, it has ranged from "awesome dinner" and "amazing time" (to a guy who texted that I was the best kisser ever) -to- "nice dinner" and "fun time" (to an introvert who clearly really liked me but wasn't terribly effusive).

Everyone has a different style. How you interact with each date will also differ. Just do what comes naturally for you. The issue here was not you. It just wasn't a match.

Someone recently said that almost all dates end in failure...until you meet the One. I think we sometimes need to remember that when things don't work out.
 
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Maybe Sunday's date was even better--life in the fast lane!
 
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Wiseman2 wrote :
So it would be OK to send a 9 word text saying "thanks for the sex, lets do this again"?
No...we would be spooning and smooching for the rest of the night. No need for a text.

Not that I would sleep with a guy on a 1st date. (He needs to work a lot harder than one date for that with me.)
 
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