D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #21  January 11,2012, 3:04pm
D_Lion's Avatar

- Ladies want to wring my neck - you have been warned!

Sage

Joined: Aug 2008

Posts: 31,679

See profile

1Horselady wrote :
And what if she is already wearing a name tag?

I actually would not care - if I even noticed.

I still consider it agreeably civilized to ask someone their name as a first overture amounting to "I am seeing if you're receptive to a conversation?"

She can take it from there, either by rudely dismissing me, politely dismissing me, pretending to flirt (a risk with a sales clerk, who may by trained or motivated by financial reward), or engaging me in reply. Having or not having a name tag actually has no impact on her inclination.
 
  Reply With Quote
scully98 is offline scully98 Post #22  January 12,2012, 8:22am
scully98's Avatar

like a cowgirl!

Virtuoso

Joined: Jun 2010

Posts: 3,063

See profile

I just assume that people working in stores have all sorts of people hitting on them all the time. Unless you really sense that they're into you, I wouldn't do it.
 
  Reply With Quote
katestein is offline katestein Post #23  January 12,2012, 8:34am
katestein's Avatar

Quick Study

Joined: Dec 2010

Omaha, NE

Posts: 70

See profile

Actually, it's funny you should tell this story! I previously worked a Victoria's Secret while I was an undergrad... let me tell you, you get all sorts of weird come-ons when you're in that industry. Some guy insisted I try on something for him because his girlfriend looked to be the same size. Inappropriate! And the phone number line? Heard it many times before, not only in my interactions with customers but also my former coworkers. I don't think it has ever worked, at least in my presence.

As a general rule, I don't like someone approaching me while I'm at work. I'm not in the right frame of mind for that sort of banter and feel trapped when approached and I'm not feeling it since I can't just up and leave.
 
  Reply With Quote
Mike74 is offline Mike74 Post #24  January 12,2012, 9:01am
Mike74's Avatar

Enthusiast

Joined: Dec 2010

NJ

Posts: 867

See profile

katestein wrote :
Actually, it's funny you should tell this story! I previously worked a Victoria's Secret while I was an undergrad... let me tell you, you get all sorts of weird come-ons when you're in that industry. Some guy insisted I try on something for him because his girlfriend looked to be the same size. Inappropriate! And the phone number line? Heard it many times before, not only in my interactions with customers but also my former coworkers. I don't think it has ever worked, at least in my presence.

As a general rule, I don't like someone approaching me while I'm at work. I'm not in the right frame of mind for that sort of banter and feel trapped when approached and I'm not feeling it since I can't just up and leave.
I can certainly imagine that you've got some stories to tell after working in Victoria's Secret! Did VS require you to ask for customers' phone numbers at checkout?

What I find ironic about hitting on a saleswoman in Victoria's Secret is that, in my opinion, its not a store that you go into as a guy unless you're buying something for an intimate partner. I'm familiar enough with VS's catalog to know that they sell clothing appropriate for outerwear (those are the pages I usually skip...), but if I wanted to buy a sweater for my mother, sister-in-law, cousin, etc., I'd go to Macys, not VS. Setting foot in that store is kind of an admission that you've already got a wife/girlfriend/lover that you're shopping for.
Last edited by Mike74; January 12,2012 at 9:04am.
 
  Reply With Quote
Wiseman2 is online now Wiseman2 Post #25  January 12,2012, 9:07am
Wiseman2's Avatar

Power Poster

Joined: May 2009

Posts: 6,305

See profile

Shopping while they are shopping?
Mike74 wrote :
What I find ironic about hitting on a saleswoman in Victoria's Secret is that, in my opinion, its not a store that you go into as a guy unless you're buying something for an intimate partner.
 
  Reply With Quote
katestein is offline katestein Post #26  January 12,2012, 11:43am
katestein's Avatar

Quick Study

Joined: Dec 2010

Omaha, NE

Posts: 70

See profile

Mike74 wrote :
I can certainly imagine that you've got some stories to tell after working in Victoria's Secret! Did VS require you to ask for customers' phone numbers at checkout?

What I find ironic about hitting on a saleswoman in Victoria's Secret is that, in my opinion, its not a store that you go into as a guy unless you're buying something for an intimate partner. I'm familiar enough with VS's catalog to know that they sell clothing appropriate for outerwear (those are the pages I usually skip...), but if I wanted to buy a sweater for my mother, sister-in-law, cousin, etc., I'd go to Macys, not VS. Setting foot in that store is kind of an admission that you've already got a wife/girlfriend/lover that you're shopping for.
First, yes, we were required to ask for a phone number at the end of the transaction. That and an email address.

As for that bolded part... there are men that just go in to look at the women that work there! I wish I was kidding! They will pretend to be interested in looking at things but really just use it as an opportunity to scope out the place. They are a lot more lenient about appearances of store associates now, but back when I was hired on, you could tell they hired on girls that fit the "look" they were going for. At least at the store I was at, which was one of the bigger ones in KC. We all kind of looked similar; all of us were pretty in shape, had longer hair, knew how to wear makeup, etc etc, haha. I remember one shift in particular we had a group of about three guys come in and just relentless pursue whichever associate happened to walk by... we ended up calling security when they refused to leave. People are ridiculous!
 
  Reply With Quote
emma_hazards is offline emma_hazards Post #27  January 12,2012, 5:29pm
emma_hazards's Avatar

Perky!

Veteran

Joined: Sep 2011

Posts: 1,907

See profile

As the head of HR for one of the large clothing chains known for their hot male and female associates likes to say, "Ugly is not a protected class."
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply
  • Page 3 of 3
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3


« Co-worker Assumptions | Dating | Women of eH, help me understand her »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
Andie's Checkout Line AndieIsMe eHarmony Advice Member Dating Journals 78 May 24,2012 11:57am
Post office line cutter -- what would you do? classicliberty Chit Chat 11 December 30,2011 4:09pm
he continues on line with other women summer85 Relationships 21 September 7,2010 7:15am
How do you date one line? beccaj65 Using eHarmony 15 April 27,2010 6:44pm
Ever been Caught in the Wrong Line? j0hn8andy About You 37 November 30,2009 9:07pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“I did answer and then also updated with news that I was premature - there is no relationship after all.” –  picklesNcream

Join the “Blast off...!” discussion

“For dating. I'm basically in a (lifelong) rut that I would like to get out of. Sadly, my good friends are also in the same place as I am - if not worse. The topic of women is non existent among ... ” –  JohnNorthSydney

Join the “So I've been thinking about getting a coach.” discussion

“I need some advice. I'm 18, never kissed/dated a girl nor obviously had a girlfriend. I just finished my first year at a top 30 university (full ride scholarship) with a 4.0 GPA. Starting my ... ” –  jrw93

Join the “Should I ever date in college?” discussion

“The point is no me seeing their photos, I can see their photos; it is them seeing my photos. This means nothing can be gauged by any interest they show to you. On FCW I've noticed the non-paying ... ” –  JohnNorthSydney

Join the “Free Communication Weekend” discussion

“TD, Have you PM'd eH_Advice_Host_Eve to ask her for help? She is good at helping people tweak their settings so they are more likely to get the results they want. Please consider contacting her if ... ” –  tink333

Join the “Different Strategy” discussion

“Did you know OT stands for on topic and off topic?” –  Bluskies4ever3

Join the “Off -Topic” discussion

“My inner child says I am. Anastasia is intriguing. (Her name too). I like the dress she's wearing in the ad. I wonder how eHarmony picks the couples for their print and TV ads.” –  Bluskies4ever3

Join the “Where is Becky?!?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 5:38am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0