pink_tulip is offline pink_tulip Post #11  January 10,2012, 9:38am
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I decided to try EH because my friend met her husband there...

I find that free dating sites like POF or OKcupid are more of a hook up kind of scenario, while EH is more oriented for people looking for relationships; so I guess it depends on what you are looking for ...

if you try EH, my advice to you is:

- Be patient ( many of the matches sent to you will not even be paying customers, therefore have no access to communicate.
- Be proactive
- Relax on the expectations (people seem goon on paper and then meeting them turns out to be dissapointing)
- And the most important.... READ THIS THREAD....

http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...ng-manual.html (Your Online Dating Manual)

Best of luck
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PHILLYKATE wrote :
Hi. I haven't tried e-harmony as a dating site yet. I'd like to get some of your thoughts and opinions on how good the site is. Has anyone out there had luck finding compatible dates? Also has anyone found long-term relationships using e-harmony? Thanks in advance for your help with this.

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My experience is probably not even close to the norm but:

I communicated with maybe 5 girls in 3 months...Dozens of dead end initiations on my part. Only one date in 3 or so months.

That one date turned into a (so far) nine month exclusive relationship with an engagement very likely on the 5-6 month horizon assuming nothing major changes in the next couple of months. I'm currently pricing rings.

So it worked for me!
 
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mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #13  January 10,2012, 12:52pm
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I posted this reply in another thread, but it fits here, too.

My experience on EH was dismal. It seems that it would have to be a cold day in July before I could be persuaded into another paid stint on EH (but, I never say never...). I had decided not to participate in the recent FCW, but at the last minute turned matching back on for the event - and Nada. I had one guy initiate on the first day of the 4-day FCW, and because I was an unpaid member I couldn't see any photos, but from his profile I didn't think we would be a good match. But, I figured we could at least get through to OC and see at that point - except that he didn't send his MH/CS until the Tuesday after the FCW.

All in all, I spent about 9 months total on EH as a full member. I had about 1100 matches in that time - and 3 dates (well, really 2 1/2 dates, because the first date was with a guy who poofed on me from EH then found me again on OKC). It was 6 full months before I had that first date. At first, I didn't initiate a lot, but then I started initiating with virtually every single match who was "Not a No". I would guess that I sent first questions to at least half of those 1100 matches. I made it to OC with maybe 15-20 matches. Of the ones that responded, most stalled out during some stage in the communication. Of my 3 EH dates, 2 had initiated with me. I didn't keep track of how many men initiated with me while I was on EH, but I know the number was not that high. Most of the matches that got to OC were ones where they had initiated.

My experience on OK Cupid has been nowhere near as bad. I don't know what the difference is, but there's just something about either the EH format, or their matching algorithms that doesn't seem to bring me compatible matches. If I ever did fall victim to EH again, I would make sure to re-take the questionnaire first. I never found that most of my matches seemed very compatible, based on their profiles. Maybe they felt the same way, which is why they would not initiate and/or respond?

Having said all that, even if I happened to meet my life partner on EH, I still could not sing its praises. Sure, I could say that it "worked" for me - but weighing that against all the negative things about EH, I still could not endorse it as a great investment for me.
 
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I met my boyfriend on eH a little over a year ago. Things are going very well, and we're very well matched with each other.

Previously, I met a few men through eH who were compatible on some levels but unsuitable in many ways.

From my observation, the level of success you have will depend on how accurately you and your matches complete the questionnaire, and how self-aware you all are. You'll find that some people don't take it seriously or respond in ways they think they're supposed to respond, as if there's a right answer.
 
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I met my boyfriend of one year on EH. Previously, I had one long relationship and one six-month relationship with two other EH men. I had gone on several first dates and a few second dates with EH matches. I made friends with one EH match. I had gone through dry spells too. Good photos are important. And P A T I E N C E . . .

I had also used Yahoo Personals (it merged with Match now). EH always worked better for me. I never used the free sites.
 
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Although I met a few guys (one turned into a short-term relationship), I did not care for eH.

I don't live in a highly populated area, so many of my matches were l/d (2+ hours away). Of the matches that were sent me, many were dead and those that were active, were not my type (at all). eH is touted as the relationship site, so I think women out-number men monumentally and are at a greater disadvantage.

That said, I have a friend who met her husband on eH and another friend who met her l/t bf on eH.
 
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I don't know anyone who has met a bf/gf on eh. I do know people who have had luck with okc and match. I have not had one date from eh in a 2 month period and went through guided communication with 1 person. Most of the matches I see are also on okcupid so I don't believe that is a "hook up" site. Yes people on are on there looking for that, but it is quite easy to filter them out. Once my subscription on eh runs out I will never use it again.
 
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While I never had trouble getting dates from any dating site, I found that eharmony provided the most interesting and mostly likely to be compatible men. I've had two relationships from eharmony matches, and I'm now engaged to be married to one of them! Eharmony was spot on in matching my fiance and me. Our interests, values, demeanor, and sense of humor are very similar.
 
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All dating sites have similar characteristics in that there are some people profile are dead and some profiles are lying on their situation.

Match and OK Cupid operate more like an online bar here you need to initiate. And pick up people.

Eharmony and chemistry do the matches for you based on your characteristics.

Chemistry is owned by match and eharmony owns jazzed so there is a lot of profile cross pollination.

Eharmony and chemistry are more geared toward those late 20s to mid 40s who have had trouble finding people to date. Where it's based on personality not looks.

With eharmony they do a detailed profile of you so you need to be honest.i with some they may fall in an extreme profile where they don't have matches for
 
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You will find people have different experiences. I've been happy overall.

I would definitely like more matches, but the matches I've dated, have been spot on. Much better in terms of compatibility than I've generally managed on my own, and all focused on looking for a long-term partner.

FWIW, I'm relatively new to online dating, and pretty selective. In a little over 3 months, I've gotten to Open Communication with 51 matches, and dated 12 of them after a phone call screen; 3 more are in "queue." I spent the first couple of months of my subscription moping for an ex, so I wasn't all in until the 3rd month, which was holiday season. Now that we are in a new year, I'm actively considering adding another site to the mix.

The experience will be what you make of it. You can sit tentatively on the sidelines wondering why you are alone, or take responsibility for your life and do something--could be eH or some other site. Think about how you might like 2012 to be different. What would you change about the approach you used in 2011?
 
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