Hiding your identity online

I work in academia, and as a result my online and social networking content is subject to intense scrutiny. I have never heard anything negative regarding my, or anyone elses, use of internet dating. I think if this was brought up in a negative way that had an impact on my career prospects I would be on the phone with a lawyer in two seconds flat.

I guess I don't see it as any different from him being a client and just deciding on his own to ask you out

Based on your work with him you know in your mind that he is not someone you would date..(closed him out in your head)....However...he thinks that you are someone he would like to date...

He has met you, or if this work is all online...spoken to you (has your work number), and knows what you look like...

And decides to come in the office to ask you out on a date...Take out the dating website...Many men have asked women out that they have met during a professional situation....At the grocery store, Best Buy, insurance agent, etc. etc...

I can think of quite a few relationships that started with, "She sold me my home insurance and we fell in love"...

If this man is a threat to you in anyway....then why keep him as a client of allow him to be on the premises....as in why not call the police?

If it's just that he happens to like you and you don't him...then that is a simple 'no thank you' for the date and move on with pleasantries...Even if he chats about things once in awhile....if you don't like it...you can pass him to another co worker and not have him as a client of yours...Or say to him gently..."I would prefer to keep our conversations on a professional level and not personal"...

He may not have checked his EH account before he came in that you closed him...Or maybe he thought that because you all did know each other that there is no need to go through the EH process...that he will just ask you out next time he sees you...

I guess I've just run into this quite a few times where a guy has asked me out where I work...both co workers and/or clients...I've never had an issue...I've either sad yes...or no thank you....I didn't find it disrespectful...