NBdater is offline NBdater Post #161  January 15,2012, 8:55am
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Faraday wrote :
So I have two questions:

Question one: This guy that's coming for dinner tonight has told me again that he's going to be a few minutes late (he was 20 minutes late last time but gave me adequate warning...as he did today).

So I texted him back and asked if he's "one of those perpetually late people or if I have a knack for bad meeting times ". He replied that it's "All him (me), unfortunately " What do you guys think about that? I'm usually early for things...I'm wondering what this will be like if we have to be somewhere together if this progresses lol.

Question two: I'm 28. eH has recently been sending me people out of my specified age range (I'm 27-38) and two of the 44 year olds requested communication. My dad is 55...I feel weird dating someone closer to my dad's age range than mine. They have both taken really great care of themselves, good looking guys, both have a couple of kids and if they were 10 years younger, I would be all over them. Should I give it a go or is 16 years too much?

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Being prompt myself I do not handle habitual lateness well. The usually late person is "dissing" the prompt one. "My time is more valuable than yours." is the message I get from such behavior.

On the age issue, at your current age of 28 I believe your dating age range of 27 to 38 is normal and sensible for a ltr candidate, especially if you are looking for marriage and children. Of course some exceptions may work out just fine.

Later on in life things change, as some posters have noted.
 
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boomer_gal wrote :

This is it exactly. For all my kvetching about age differences, I honestly do believe that when two people fall in love, it is something wonderful, no matter what differences there may be n age, or other things. But I do have serious issues with the guys who set their filters to a max of 10 or 15 years below their own age & aren't even willing to consider the possibility that someone their own age may be worthy of consideration.
Rejection is painful whether one is a woman or a man. Being screened out for age is rejection whether for dating or employment. I fully agree with posts stating many if not most of these men may be unrealistic and dreaming.

Occasional browsing on match dot com turns up women in their forties and early fifties looking for men 10 to 20 years younger than themselves which I find so comically improbable I sometimes find myself laughing out loud. They are no doubt looking for a fling which is OK. A hard man is good to find.

I have found it very rare to connect with a quality match sufficiently younger than myself on internet dating sites which is why, being realistic, I stick to getting out into the real world if I really want to meet women I would actually want to date.
 
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