Why would a woman say THIS at the end of a first date and then not respond to my messages


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Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #91  January 18,2012, 10:38pm
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nv1983 wrote :
Interesting that people are still harping on the two day thing. People on this forum have a tendency to emphasize the importance of what really are details. Think about the corollary:

This woman really liked OP and was very much into seeing him again. She was so invested in this date being set up the very next day that she was just crippled with anguish when he didn't call the next day. The day after, he calls to set up a date, but by then, she's already moved on and doesn't respond.

Is this a possibility? After one-two days? Yes, but come on now. This is an extra day we're talking about, not a week, not a month. If you like someone, I find it hard to imagine that this could ever be a deal breaker. The probable truth is that she wasn't that into him for whatever reason and just didn't have the wherewithal to tell him.
No, actually, the "probable truth" is that if he (you?) feel the need to wait 2-3 days to call, then he (you?) probably aren't that into her but are just playing your game to see if you can "win."

The women aren't "crippled by anguish" (good big belly laugh at that one!) No, they are actually disgusted at the game playing and have moved on before you make your next move in that game of yours.
 
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nv1983 wrote :
Is this a possibility? After one-two days? Yes, but come on now. This is an extra day we're talking about, not a week, not a month. If you like someone, I find it hard to imagine that this could ever be a deal breaker. The probable truth is that she wasn't that into him for whatever reason and just didn't have the wherewithal to tell him.
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BroadDaylight wrote :
This is a truth a lot of people don't realize: While men are also visual, women place a much higher importance on looks and physical attractiveness!

Successful women will stay single longer and longer, until their 30s and beyond, while waiting for their ideal physical match. All they are interested in is "tall, dark, handsome". They wait and wait until the good men are gone, or are looking for younger women. Looks are important for men, but only part of it.

This is from personal experience. I know a LOT of single women who I would consider about as good looking as me, and yet none of them are interested in dating me, while I am interested in dating all of them.THEREFORE, they are more picky appearance wise than I am. Trust me, these women are not models. And believe me, everything else about me is in the top 25%, to be honest (job, security, income, car, property, fit, family oriented, caring, available, etc etc).

Looks are paramount.

yes, there may be a woman out there who considers a man for who he is, but she is so rare and hard to find, God has to bring her to you.

Looks are important to both male and female... there must be some physical attraction on both parts for a romantic relationship to flourish.

I don't know you and therefore can't comment on what you look like; however, physical attractiveness is subjective. I have read plenty of profiles where men describe themselves as attractive, even very attractive... and, based on their pictures, would respectfully disagree...


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It's not that I would be crippled with anguish from the extra day or two of wait, it's that I'm horribly allergic to game players. Plus I have other choices.

I don't care how into you I was on the date itself. Game playing is a cold shower that will immediately bring me to my senses early in the dating process. I am not going to give someone an opportunity to screw around with my feelings just to stroke their ego. Even if I thought you were God's gift to mankind on the date or you were the last man on the face of the earth, just not going to happen. I'll stay single.

Totally agree w/ this. At the first sign of game-playing/being jacked around, I abort. I have no emotional investment and too many options to put up w/ such nonsense.
 
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Very rude of her to ignore your messages. You should call her once per day for however long it takes to get a response.

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Makes me smile and feel desired.
Why aren't you concerned about him feeling desired?



moonette wrote :
Calling 2 or 3 days later is socially acceptable, tho it doesn't come across as interested. And it leaves a lot of time for the girl to have talked with or met someone else.




Next time, call her the next day with that plan for date 2. It may change your dating for the better.
I doubt this. Regardless of when he calls, she will have plenty of time to meet someone else.
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myusernamehere wrote :
Very rude of her to ignore your messages. You should call her once per day for however long it takes to get a response.


Why aren't you concerned about him feeling desired?





I doubt this. Regardless of when he calls, she will have plenty of time to meet someone else.
The guys that I have dated always ask me at the end of the first date for a second date. I always consider that if they don't ask then , than I shouldn't expect ANY phone call after that date at ALL.



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