beachgirl5 is offline beachgirl5 Post #11  October 14,2011, 5:03am
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mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #12  October 14,2011, 6:37am
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suzyque wrote :
While it could very well be true that he doesn't like where his life is at the moment...I also think this is his way of letting you off gently. He probably likes you but doesn't feel the relationship has long term potential.
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It could also be that you have bumped up the level of seriousness farther than he is comfortable with. That is really just a guess because we don't know much, but that can cause what you have explained.
I think it could be somewhere in between these 2 posts. Sometimes (a lot of times!) there is a disconnect between what one person wants and expects out of dating and what the other person wants and expects. You sound like you are ready to move on into a "serious relationship" while he sounds like he is just looking for "dating" at this point.

When people throw that "my life is really busy and I don't have time for dating" stuff at you, they usually mean "my life is really busy... and I like it that way". They are interested in companionship, hanging out with someone in a romantic sense, without the big commitment of "being in a relationship".

If you guys really are in different places, you're better off moving on to someone else who is in the same place. Sorry, I know it sucks!
 
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I'm sorry to say but it sounds like he is not interested...especially with only finding time for 3 dates in 3 months...

The only reason I could think of for keeping it so vague..is if you all have already been intimate and he wants to keep you around to have that from time to time...

Or else he is trying to not hurt your feelings by being so blunt about ending things..

I do agree that asking 'where are things going for us' after 3 dates is going to scare a lot of people away...

I would personally just delete his number and move on to finding someone who is ready to make time for you in their schedule and excited about dating you.
 
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