The 4 Sure Signs of Confidence Women Look for in a Man

The 4 Sure Signs of Confidence Women Look for in a Man

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Mishael is offline Mishael Post #1  October 13,2011, 5:43am
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Great article and very true.  I hope readers pay close attention to the way the writer described these 4 things women look for. because there is a subtle difference between "easy going" and appearing uninterested... and the same for the other 3 things the writer mentioned.   
 
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One more article to add to the pile of 'Stuff I'm Already Doing But Hasn't Ever Worked'... Ugh...
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #3  October 13,2011, 10:01am
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"great women don’t see a man as potential “relationship material” based on his looks, money, or cheesy pick-up lines."

This is poppycock!!! If the guy is not TDH it does not matter what else he is or does.
 
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"great women don’t see a man as potential “relationship material” based on his looks, money, or cheesy pick-up lines."

This is poppycock!!! If the guy is not TDH it does not matter what else he is or does.
 
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Rob488 is offline Rob488 Post #5  October 13,2011, 4:50pm
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Saturday Night Live is a pitiful excuse for comedy, as are its offshoots (like that pathetic movie "Bridesmaids"). If watching SNL is recommended to find out what's humorous and thereby one way to learn how to attract "great" women, well, then, greatness has an appalling new definition.
 
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Jerry71162 is offline Jerry71162 Post #6  October 15,2011, 10:32am
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  Once again the falacy prevails, if your not 5'10", and athletic and you don't look like the magazine guys eHarmony uses on their commercials then the 4 things you mention don't mean a thing. I have all of those characteristics naturally, I may not have perfected them all but who has?  The majority of women seem to care the most about if you will be taller than they are when they wear there heels (at least by 3 inches) and are you good looking enough to strike a little envy in her girlfriends or to at least compliment her ego. Strange but true........   I have talked with many women over the last 4 years and had wonderful conversations, laughs and starts of great relationships. We meet and they automatically say there is no "instant spark". I may not be tall (5'7") or "GQ" but I am intelligent, I dress well have a great sense of humor, treat all women as a gentleman should and connsider myself to be average to good looking, I am no Ogre. I am just not 8 inches taller than they are or arm candy.  It is so funny to me, I just laugh now...... 
 
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RolandOfGilead is offline RolandOfGilead Post #7  October 16,2011, 4:57pm
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Except for fact that a lot of beautiful women like handsome jerks, great article.

Didn't mean to sound that bitter but there is a direct correlation between attractiveness of the girl and what kind of response I get.
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Here's my two cents... probably more with inflation..

I love a well spoken man....Loved the way he wrote his profile! I did initiate an EH email...he was quick, witty... made me laugh. He wasn't GQ and said he was athletic but I could tell from his pictures not gym athletic...he's 5'10. I was attracted to his intellect. Sadly, he only responded twice...still keeping my fingers crossed. PS...I have been told that I'm quite attractive.
 
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Jerry71162 wrote :
I have all of those characteristics naturally, I may not have perfected them all but who has? The majority of women seem to care the most about if you will be taller than they are when they wear there heels (at least by 3 inches) and are you good looking enough to strike a little envy in her girlfriends or to at least compliment her ego. Strange but true........ I have talked with many women over the last 4 years and had wonderful conversations, laughs and starts of great relationships. ......
Whilst I agree 100% with the article, I cannot but also agree with you. This may come across as contradiction but I think there is a paradox (at least for many) when it comes to the issue of relationships. It exists with men as much as it does with women. I must say that I had in the past looked at the outward appearance first before anything else but that is not to say I will base my acceptance (or not) of the man on purely his appearance. I think we all know deep down that for us to have fulfilling relationships, we need someone of character - humility, confidence, honesty, emotional strength and the rest of it but sometimes the sexual chemistry takes all these desires and overides them. It is down to each one of us to define what we want and keep ourselves on that straight and narrow to focus on the kind of lives we want to live and not be tossed about by what others think of our choices.
 
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Jerry71162 wrote :
Once again the falacy prevails, if your not 5'10", and athletic and you don't look like the magazine guys eHarmony uses on their commercials then the 4 things you mention don't mean a thing. I have all of those characteristics naturally, I may not have perfected them all but who has? The majority of women seem to care the most about if you will be taller than they are when they wear there heels (at least by 3 inches) and are you good looking enough to strike a little envy in her girlfriends or to at least compliment her ego. Strange but true........ I have talked with many women over the last 4 years and had wonderful conversations, laughs and starts of great relationships. We meet and they automatically say there is no "instant spark". I may not be tall (5'7") or "GQ" but I am intelligent, I dress well have a great sense of humor, treat all women as a gentleman should and connsider myself to be average to good looking, I am no Ogre. I am just not 8 inches taller than they are or arm candy. It is so funny to me, I just laugh now......
I think that many of you are missing the point. Let's approach this discussion reasonably and, one would hope, fruitfully. Yes, tall, good-looking men with lots of money have an advantage in the dating game; this is no more a secret than the fact that super-hot babes wearing size 1 dresses have an advantage over their date-seeking sisters. Complaining about it does not and never will change ths reality.

What can one do? First, if you are a man who is consistently being rejected by the women you choose to approach, and there is nothing obviously and drastically "wrong" with you, you might have to adjust your expectations. In short (no pun intended), lower your bar. Yes, you heard me correctly. If you are consistently failing at getting women's attention, if you find yourself constantly complaining that women "only want tall, George Clooney types," if dating has become so overwhelmingly frustrating to you, then you are chasing women who have lots of options and don't view you--for whatever reason--as datable. So, try dating women whom you might have considered "less than" you deserve and see what happens. You might become pleasantly surprised.

Second, I do know short, relatively average-looking men, who are not rich, yet do very well with women. You, however, would never hear these men complaining about the choices women make. You would never hear them complain how women only want tall, rich, and handsome men. The primary reason you would never hear them make such complaints is simply that it has not been their experience. More important, though, is that their perosnality is just not the type that would ever think that way. It is not in their nature to pontificate about the percieved injustice of women ignoring them for more preferable men. Women pick up on this fact, and they like it--they can't help but be attracted to such a dynamic.

In closing, read this sensible article and rather than critique it negatively and invoke the standard mantras of self-pity, see what you can do to become that guy.

Now, go and sin no more.
 
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