Is it okay to ask someone out on Facebook?


Reply
  • Page 3 of 3
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
ami1uwant is online now ami1uwant Post #21  October 11,2011, 1:35pm
ami1uwant's Avatar

Virtuoso

Joined: Feb 2008

Seattle, WA

Posts: 4,640

See profile

This situation is reasonable given the situation to ask her out. Normally I would say no...especially if you decide to surf profile checking out profile pics.
 
  Reply With Quote
Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #22  October 11,2011, 5:26pm
Mr_Right's Avatar

says this is the best wedding picture!

Virtuoso

Joined: Jun 2008

USA

Posts: 4,402

See profile

I believe this is fairly applicable - xkcd: Facebook
 
  Reply With Quote
treatmesweetly is offline treatmesweetly Post #23  October 11,2011, 5:41pm
treatmesweetl…'s Avatar

Veteran

Joined: May 2008

Farmington Hills, MI

Posts: 1,052

See profile

lionhead27 wrote :
Yeah, I was thinking about that aproach as well. I know from her status updates that she's been suffering from injuries, but it's a subject I guess. I suppose I should exchange a few lines with her before asking her out, as just asking her out might put her off?
Good idea... Instead of publicly posting on her FB page and "liking" her posts and pictures, send her a private Message via FB and ask her how she's doing? Are her running injuries getting better?

Just a couple lines. Assuming she responds, reply back and reference what she tells you. [i.e., "Glad to hear you're feeling better." or "Sorry to hear your knee/ankle is still bothering you."]

Then, change the subject to something benign... "Did you see the movie trailer for ...?" or "Chemistry 101 is killin' me!" or "How about those Detroit Lions?!"

After a couple messages, you might be in a great position to invite her to do something you'll both enjoy (tail-gate, campus party, dinner/movie, study group, other).

Good luck!
 
  Reply With Quote
NMS is offline NMS Post #24  October 11,2011, 6:48pm
NMS's Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Mar 2010

Posts: 4

See profile

Asking about her injuries might go over well, but she also might think you are stalking her page if it hasn't been in a recent feed that you would have seen that day. It all depends on if she feels the same about you. I think since you met her at a running club you should ask if she wants to meet up to go running sometime. Then it could lead to a date. If she says that she can't run because of injuries follow it up with an invite for coffee or lunch. That way if she's not 'into you' you don't turn into "that creepy guy" and it gives you the chance to hang out and show her what a great guy are.
 
  Reply With Quote
TheWallaby is offline TheWallaby Post #25  October 11,2011, 7:53pm
TheWallaby's Avatar

Engineers feel?

Newbie

Joined: Oct 2011

Middle of Nowhere, USA

Posts: 25

See profile

I've found Facebook messages out of the blue don't go over so well. Of course, that was also when I was socially inept and a total nerd of a guy, so maybe that was why. Regardless, if you need Facebook, it usually works best if you (a) have just run into them again in life, so that everybody is fresh in each other's memory, or (b) you strike up some conversation first ("Oh, I just saw some of your injuries come up in my news feed...that must be why you aren't in the running club right now!") and take it from there.

I've asked gals out twice through it, in the early days of Facebook, and the first thought it was just a bit strange, and the second ignored my message and treated me offline as if nothing had ever happened. I had the same situation you have going on here. I was also asked out once over Facebook by a gal I wasn't particularly into; she led into it with conversation, and generally it all was fairly pleasant despite my turning her down. I wasn't offset by her behavior at all. But, then again, I knew her fairly well in high school, so the three years that had gone by weren't that big of a deal. In short, get some positive reactions and get in her memory before going for it, otherwise you're just some stalker.
 
  Reply With Quote
richey is offline richey Post #26  October 12,2011, 7:04pm
richey's Avatar

Virtuoso

Joined: Aug 2009

san francisco, ca

Posts: 2,764

See profile

Answer #1: good friend of mine that's how her husband and her met (he introduced himself to her saying he had followed her). They've been married like 2 yrs now and they actually are right for each other and doing well.

Answer #2: just ask her out. What's all this debate about? Waiting/timing it doesn't help make her want to date you more. Her interest in you is what makes her want to date you or not date you and if you don't step up within a certain period of time ~ the iron gets "cold" so to speak. I'm all for not jumping for her right away and talking some ~ but it's time to talk in person, get together in person, and get to know each other that way - not Facebook.

Although my friend got married ~ they didn't get married because they "developed their marriage" on Facebook. Ask her out..

Richey
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply
  • Page 3 of 3
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3


« Psychology of Online Dating? | Dating | Why don't guys say "Thank You" after a date? »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
Is it a bad idea to move eHarmony relationships to Facebook? Mbrone Relationships 10 December 2,2010 12:59pm
Facebook friending... Does more make you a better catch or a desperate dater? AndieIsMe About You 40 August 23,2010 9:05am
Female Facebook Friends. Need Advice. parakeetjordan Dating 117 March 12,2010 6:35pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“ ^This is the better plan.. My experience has been that love usually comes along when you least expect it, and when your heart is open enough to let it in. If you try to put a set time table on when ... ” –  TheThinker

Join the “Transition from dating to relationship” discussion

“ As Ingy mentions ...he's good with the lines and multitasking relationships.. All anyone can say is: don't get played again...especially by the same guy twice... Move on to someone who is decisive ... ” –  lynntlb78

Join the “Reuniting with EX” discussion

“This varies based on your age, gender, location, settings, and 29 dimensions. My settings are fairly narrow and I've always gotten a steady stream of matches. But, my location seems to have a lot ... ” –  dmi

Join the “Different Strategy” discussion

“I'm extremely allergic to cats, plus I just don't like 'em. So I won't date someone with cats. Dogs, I love. But I'm attracted to certain types of dogs. A guy with a little yorkie turns me off. ... ” –  ZisaGirl

Join the “What about a "PET BOX" ?? again this sounds simple or??” discussion

“If you get the opportunity, yes.” –  ThePriestess

Join the “Should I ever date in college?” discussion

“...and since you're Shaun Cassidy fan mitchell...this song is just for you! "Da Doo Ron Ron" I met her on a Monday And my heart stood still Da doo ron ron ron Da doo ron ron Somebody told me That ... ” –  legend29

Join the “Robin Gibbs Dead at 62...How Deep is Your Love?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 8:50am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0