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eam2011 is offline eam2011 Post #1  October 10,2011, 3:43pm
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Ok so i just set up a date with someone I'm excited to see. Up until the other day I would only see one girl at at time but after being on here a while I see that I'm in the minority so I'm trying to see multiple people if possible. Someone else is hinting for me to ask her out right now and while I am a bit curious she has 5 strikes against her out of the box.

Is it ok just to go on a date as practice? I don't think it would go anywhere...
 
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I would only go out with somebody I was actually..."excited to see".

Don't know what you mean about somebody having "5 strikes against her out of the box"...but if I didn't "think it would go anywhere"...

I probably wouldn't bother...and I certainly wouldn't concern myself with whether I was in a "minority" or not.

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There are plenty of people that will go out on a date with someone just for something interesting to do that night. If you go into it with no expectations, perhaps it may be a more relaxing evening than usual and you may end up thoroughly enjoying yourself.
 
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eam2011 wrote :
Someone else is hinting for me to ask her out right now and while I am a bit curious she has 5 strikes against her out of the box.

Is it ok just to go on a date as practice? I don't think it would go anywhere...
There's a difference between going out with someone you believe is a "definite No" than someone who is a "possible maybe".

So much about online dating is "getting to a maybe". But, with someone who has "5 strikes against her" already, she hardly sounds like a "maybe".

How would you like it if you knew that a woman was only going out with you for "practice", when she already knew it "wouldn't go anywhere"? Besides, when you've already decided someone is a "No", what could they possibly do to push them over into "Maybe" territory?
 
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I think it depends on what the 5 strikes are. For example... I know that some guys consider the fact that I have young children to be a strike, the fact that my divorce was in the past year (NC requires a year separation before you can be legally divorced), etc

So if the 5 strikes are just your hang ups based on previous relationship experiences, then it may be worth it to go out with her and see if your connection changes your mind about those strikes.

However, if the strike is something along the lines of drinking too much, lying, etc. Then those would be a deal breaker in my mind, and not worth wasting either of your time.
 
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I am also somewhat curious about someone having 5 strikes. I think overall, think about what you would want a girl to do in the reverse situation. Would you want a girl to accept a date with you if you she felt about you, like you feel about this girl?

If the answer is, "sure, what the heck", then go for it. If the answer is "no way", the I think you know what to do.
 
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While I practice the philosophy that dating coach Dr. Henry Cloud proposes of going out at least once with almost anyone. This does not mean that you should go out with someone who has multiple red flags or deal breakers. I am assuming that the "5 strikes" are deal breakers.
 
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Mike74 is offline Mike74 Post #10  October 10,2011, 5:43pm
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One is only allowed 3 strikes before one is out. I realize that, contrary to popular belief, the rules of baseball and the rules of dating are in fact different, but in this instance, the 3 strike rule probably works equally well for both.
 
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