questions to ask to see if s/he is "into you?"

Has he kissed you yet?

There's this guy I've gone on two dates with. We are just now getting to know each other, and I'm taking my time with him, as I'm also getting to know two other guys as well. I could see myself really liking Guy1... but, I am having a very hard time reading him! He is much more quiet than the other guys I have dated, and he doesn't share a lot. I'm a social person, so I find myself talking about various things, and he's a great listener. But, becuase he's not sharing a lot, or very talkative, it comes across as he may not be that into me. Then, I get a text (after the first date), asking for a second date... another text after the second, asking for a third.

Now, I know what you're thinking... he's asking you out, so obviously he's into you. That's not necessarily the case. I'm decently attractive and a good conversationalist. He's been single for a while, so I think he enjoys my company. I don't know, though, if he could really see us together, as a serious couple.

I'm curious if there are questions that you could ask a shy, possibly passive type guy, to determine if he's into you. I know that if I come right out and ask him, that he would say yes... I think in this situation most guys would as I have found through dating, people go a long way to not hurt your feelings. I wouldn't expect this guy, specifically, to say something like...
"hmmm... I'm not really feeling a connection, but I find you attractive, so hoping some sparks will fly."

I'm sure he wouldn't say that, and I don't see a reason to ask him straight out if he's feeling it... or at least beginning to feel it. It's only been two dates, so no hurry... just curious what to ask to get a general feeling of where things are with him.

suggestions welcome!

There are a lot of guys like that, including me. I wouldn't consider myself a great conversationalist, either. All that guys like us need is a way to get the conversation flowing, so ask him a few questions. In the end, he's asking you out, so you know he at least has some interest in you.

There's this guy I've gone on two dates with. We are just now getting to know each other, and I'm taking my time with him, as I'm also getting to know two other guys as well. I could see myself really liking Guy1... but, I am having a very hard time reading him! He is much more quiet than the other guys I have dated, and he doesn't share a lot. I'm a social person, so I find myself talking about various things, and he's a great listener. But, becuase he's not sharing a lot, or very talkative, it comes across as he may not be that into me. Then, I get a text (after the first date), asking for a second date... another text after the second, asking for a third.

Now, I know what you're thinking... he's asking you out, so obviously he's into you. That's not necessarily the case. I'm decently attractive and a good conversationalist. He's been single for a while, so I think he enjoys my company. I don't know, though, if he could really see us together, as a serious couple.

I'm curious if there are questions that you could ask a shy, possibly passive type guy, to determine if he's into you. I know that if I come right out and ask him, that he would say yes... I think in this situation most guys would as I have found through dating, people go a long way to not hurt your feelings. I wouldn't expect this guy, specifically, to say something like...
"hmmm... I'm not really feeling a connection, but I find you attractive, so hoping some sparks will fly."

I'm sure he wouldn't say that, and I don't see a reason to ask him straight out if he's feeling it... or at least beginning to feel it. It's only been two dates, so no hurry... just curious what to ask to get a general feeling of where things are with him.

suggestions welcome!

If you still really want to know, here's one that might do the trick:

"Will you marry me?"

You can laugh about it later, but at least you could see his body language and reaction....

ummm... dont you think that might kinda have the opposite effect of what you're looking for?! think that question early on would make just about any guy go running for the hills!! pretty sure most girls too!

there wouldn't be a "late" to laugh about!

Well, it was a tongue-in-cheek reply. But it definitely COULD give her the answer she was looking for....I mean, if he laughed it off she would know for he fact he wasn't serious.