WHEN SHOULD A MAN CONTACT YOU AGAIN AFTER FIRST DATE?


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Ingytravel is offline Ingytravel Post #61  October 11,2011, 2:29pm
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sarahtoronto wrote :
...so why would the same not apply for a woman then? it is not that he did all the job so far...still- from my perspective , he has shown little interest . so why, should i be expected to send a "had a great night with you" message and not him??? i already indicated after the second date that i would like to see him again.....
How has this guy shown 'little interest'??? He asked you out on a date...paid for the date...You then asked him out and he accepted...you paid for part...he paid for part...

Where have YOU shown more interest than he did?

Also...the attitude in the latter part of this post is going to backfire on your dating life...

I always send a follow up thank you email saying.."Hey John, I had a great time last night...thank you so much for the hike and dinner afterwards..The food was fantastic...and that trail was so peaceful...thanks for rescuing me from the rattlesnake!...LOL..Hope your week is going well...I would love to get together soon...what is your schedule looking like?."..

I do something because I WANT to...not because I am 'expected to'...

I'm sorry...but you sound like a kid saying.."Why do I have to wash my hands for dinner when Billy didn't!!!"....

For goodness sake..you are spending so much time obsessing over the smallest details...

Even saying you 'hinted' at the end of the date...What the heck?

Say what you mean...mean what you say...Go for what you want..

I'm not saying you have to keep asking the man out...But if you actually like the guy..and want to go out again...and you actually had a good time on the last date....then say so! It's pretty simple...

He will either respond back with interest...or brush it off....or no contact at all...

If you are going to just do nothing...then that's likely what you will get back....
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mitchell175 wrote :
OK, first of all, I just want to say that I know that I am decidedly behind the curve, but I never sent - or received - a single text until just about a year ago when I got a phone with text capability. So, this whole "texting after a date" phenomenon is a fairly recent one. It kills me how many people prefer to have "conversations" via text.
Mitchell, this is a somewhat new experience for me also, but it has been the preferred mode of contact for almost every woman I have been out with over the past year. I don't really care either way, but it has been theirs so I have played along. I actually had to up my texting plan once I started dating more. I sent maybe 20 texts a month before then.
 
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sarahtoronto wrote :
...so why would the same not apply for a woman then? it is not that he did all the job so far...still- from my perspective , he has shown little interest . so why, should i be expected to send a "had a great night with you" message and not him??? i already indicated after the second date that i would like to see him again.....
I would strongly encourage you to not think in terms of "why"s and "should"s. It's not a task, chore, or rule. If you want to go out with someone again, ask them out. If you don't want to, then don't. It really is that simple. I'd say the same thing to him if he were the one asking, but he's not.
 
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