Am I too eager to get into a relationship?

A few thoughts and questions...

Why have you not made any effort to make the 2 hour drive to see her in all these months?

I don't think in any relationship (especially with long distance) should one person take on all the traveling. Even with her having family...you should be offering to come and visit her at least half of the time.

It does sound like she was upset about the FB issue and wanting to call this a relationship right now. I'm assuming then that you all have not been intimate then? (You don't have to answer..)

It also sounds like you all have only been dating for 3 months and about ever other week (on the weekends I presume with work during the week)...that is what..maybe 10 or 12 dates so far?

You really can't count the 4 months being online and never having met during that time...That was really a pen pals/online friendship with a stranger at that point. Most people start the dating process during the first face to face meeting..

So this is where it seems you have gotten much more emotionally involved than she is right now as she has said she only feels a friendship with you.

When someone wants to take things slow...that means they aren't sure about you yet. It's also very likely that she is dating others and trying to figure out with whom to get into a long term relationship.

Long distance relationships are very tough to begin with when both people consider themselves dating...This is a situation where you feel a romantic connection and she does not right now..

She may be waiting to see more of an effort by you to come and visit her and is a bit frustrated that she is doing all the 'work' per say to go on dates.

Your choices are either to give it another few dates as well as putting in time to go see her and whether it makes a difference.

Or you can go ahead and start dating others and see if there is a better connection with someone else.

Or you can ask her if she really does see any type of a future for you two to be more than friends and if not...then you would rather part ways and wish each other well.

"Why have you not made any effort to make the 2 hour drive to see her in all these months?"

It doesn't mean I haven't tried. I work early mornings on weekends, and three weekdays, while she has a regular 9-5 M-F job. I had planned a trip to see her on a weekday afternoon that I had off, but she was stuck at work over lunch and was unavailable during the evening. Another trip I had planned on a Saturday afternoon after I had finished working also fell through, because she was in my city that same day... I didn't know about that until the day before. While we were communicating online, I had an extended business trip to her city, but decided not to meet at that time, because I was too committed to my work there. Hopefully things do work out and I am able to get over there before the end of the month and have told her that.

"It does sound like she was upset about the FB issue and wanting to call this a relationship right now. I'm assuming then that you all have not been intimate then? (You don't have to answer..)"

I see no reason why I can't answer that. We haven't been intimate. We have kissed once, the last time we saw each other, but now I'm starting to wonder if it was the right time. She didn't really specify the FB issue, but I could sense that she was thrown off by it.

"It also sounds like you all have only been dating for 3 months and about ever other week (on the weekends I presume with work during the week)...that is what..maybe 10 or 12 dates so far?"

Not far off... we've met six different times face-to-face. Our first date was 10 minutes long... three early dates were at public events, and the last few have been over coffee and clocked in at an hour long.

"Your choices are either to give it another few dates as well as putting in time to go see her and whether it makes a difference.

Or you can go ahead and start dating others and see if there is a better connection with someone else.

Or you can ask her if she really does see any type of a future for you two to be more than friends and if not...then you would rather part ways and wish each other well"

I might just do that... but I want to get some sort of closure in this before I even consider dating someone else. The next time I do see her, whether I am able to drive there or not, I will ask her what she thinks, and maybe then, I might know for sure what our future holds.

Something is not adding up here. After 7 moths of communicating and 3 of those months meeting each other almost every other week she is asking to take it slow and start as just friends???? Hate to say this, but this would make a sloth look hyperactive.

I think instead of agreeing to ....er...slow down....maybe you need to evaluate what exactly you are doing when pursuing a relationship and what kind of crazy are you tolerating? The way I see it is that either she thought of you as nothing more than a buddy up until now and was completely blindsided and shocked by your status announcement or there is something very wrong with her that you are ignoring. So....what have you two been doing for the past 7 months???