jtkdp is offline jtkdp Post #31  September 5,2011, 4:39pm
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I was a bartender for 11 years. I basically flirted for a living!
The one thing I took away from that (besides a really high tolerance for tequila) is that some men never get the difference in job-related friendliness and professional flirting, and personal interest. In 11 years I never said yes to anyone who asked me out while I was on the clock. I had a couple of flirtations that developed into off-the-clock flirtation and then into dates, but a request while I was working was an automatic no.
Exactly.

If you guys have ever been to Hooters, or out here in the west we have a chain called Old Chicago, both are sports bars/restaurants, you know that the waitresses flirt endlessly. But they don't mean it...they do it for tips, and in hopes that you return with your buddies...more tips, and keep the restaurant open and keep them employed.

The only method of meeting women or trying to date that has failed 100% of the time for me is trying to pick up on cashiers/clerks, waitresses or service persons, therefore, I don't use it anymore.

The shoe is somewhat on the other foot for me now that I'm presently a carrier with the U. S. Postal Service. I get called Honey, babe, sweetie, sugar, etc. more times in a day than I can count, but most of the women are undesirable to me, and even if I did find one to be my type...I'm at work...I have to get it done, and I don't have time to mess around.
 
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Quote: " "Would you like to join me for a glass of wine later?"

"Uhhhhhhh.... I don't think I can."

...and I smiled as I said, "OK" and left."

This exchange made me wince. First, asking her out for a glass of wine later, meaning tonite, right now or never kind of thing is really inconsiderate because she's working and may be tired or has other plans. It doesn't help you either because you don't know that she wouldn't go out with you ever. It would have been best to relate whatever you were talking about and turn it into asking her out as in: "Would you like to go to where or what we were discussing sometime?"

I would have interpreted your question as a whim from a guy just trying to get lucky that night after a few shots. When I waitressed or worked retail, men who would ask me out in a very limited way gave the impression that he really wasn't interested in me but was just lonely at that moment so it was easy to blow off.
 
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