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LoveSong is offline LoveSong Post #1  September 1,2011, 1:30pm
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Hi Guys.

I somewhat recently made a post about dating outside your social class. I wasn't very specific so let me try again...

I would like to know your thoughts and opinions about dating outside of your social class in terms of:

-Different Family Income Background. [Ex: Coming from an upper class family/very nice home vs. Coming from very little money/low class home.] Eating differently, grocery shopping very differently, etc...

-Different Education levels. [One person went through college or beyond, the other just went through High School]
** Note here: I know Bill Gates didn't graduate college and he is a real success. I am referring to people who only went through high school and work at minimum wage and are not academic/business minded at all.

-Different Way of Speaking: [Talking slang or southern, some accent different from the proper/typical way of speaking that you are accustomed to]

Is it likely the relationship can happen and/or last?
Is it completely crazy to get involved with someone who comes from a completely different background than you?

I'm more specifically talking about a girl who comes from a better upbringing, but I'm interested in hearing all types of opinions.
 
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Not trying to be snarky...but how is this different from the thread you started before on this? Everyone answered these type of situations...so curious what you are wanting?

What issues are you facing with this particular girl? How has this affected your dating her? Or are you just wanting debate/conversation?
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Ingytravel wrote :
Not trying to be snarky...but how is this different from the thread you started before on this? Everyone answered these type of situations...so curious what you are wanting?

What issues are you facing with this particular girl? How has this affected your dating her? Or are you just wanting debate/conversation?
Many people did not really know what I was referring to in the previous thread.. they said they didn't know what social class even means. I got a broad range of responses. Mostly people referred it to conversational topics and interests.

I'm a female so this issue applies to dating a male. I am not currently dating someone like this (yet). If I was in the relationship, I would not be asking. The question is "is it a good idea to even get involved with someone like that?" I tried my hardest to write it so people would understand...Not quite sure why you don't.
 
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I have no problem understanding the question as I did the last time...that's why I asked why you posted twice about the same topic...

But no worries...I was just curious...

And sorry about the mixup on the gender as the way it was written sounded the other way...

So my question is that do you feel you are in the higher social class and are only matched with those lower? Or where are you running into this being a problem?

You keep saying.."Is it worth getting involved with someone like 'that'"....Like what? Someone who is beneath you? In which of those categories you listed....or all of them? If you are getting matched with men that you don't care for...then it may be good to retake the questionnaire, or maybe online isn't the best way to meet someone for you. I would suggest that if you care so much about the social upbringing that you had and only want to date within your class...then do so....

It's pretty simple...Those that care...should only date their 'kind'....and those that don't...won't care either way....

I personally could not care less about how someone was brought up...it's how they live their life now. With integrity, honesty, empathy, kindness and a love for learning.
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LoveSong wrote :
-Different Way of Speaking: [Talking slang or southern, some accent different from the proper/typical way of speaking that you are accustomed to]
You mean like someone from NYC that speaks through their nose. Or someone from Massachusetts who never learned that there is an "R" in the alphabet

I kind of take offense that speaking "Southern" is in some way a bad thing Hang around here long enough and read enough of my posts you will find that I frequently write in Old English, talk that way sometimes too. That should be proper enough for you


 
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Oh boy...

Firstly, was not in any way referring to eharmony or online dating sites. No clue where that came from or how that even plays a role.

And gr8guy...In my case it's ghetto not southern. Like never typing or saying words correctly...using slang as in "aint, dang, dat, fin" etc...
I was just trying to expand the example so people would know what I mean. I did not mean ghetto, southern, or any accent is a bad thing. Please don't add to what I said. Just take it as written.
 
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The more differences you have the bigger the hill to climb. I separate what they were raised in or come from from what they do now.

There is also sexual bias in this where it's more socially accepted that he is soioeconomcally higher than her..but the reverse is not accepted.

Remember...love doesnot conquer all.....
 
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Never said the person was beneath me either...Geez... stop adding to what I said and creating your own stories. It's simply different.
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
I separate what they were raised in or come from from what they do now.
Suppose it's the same boat.
 
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LoveSong wrote :
Oh boy...

Firstly, was not in any way referring to eharmony or online dating sites. No clue where that came from or how that even plays a role.

And gr8guy...In my case it's ghetto not southern. Like never typing or saying words correctly...using slang as in "aint, dang, dat, fin" etc...
I was just trying to expand the example so people would know what I mean. I did not mean ghetto, southern, or any accent is a bad thing. Please don't add to what I said. Just take it as written.
Ain't they're situation you describe come from some Internit related gizmo ?


I don't recall your last thread and replying...but this thread does come off as if you are wondering if it is socially acceptable for you to date a guy below your own class.
 
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