melvimbe is offline melvimbe Post #11  September 1,2011, 3:47pm
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That can understandably be a turn off, no doubt, but if you wish to continue, you should realize that you're going to have to do a lot of chasing. Personally, if I liked the girl, I'd realize she's got lots of suitors, which I don't see as a problem in and of itself. I would probably ask for her number and see if that goes anywhere. If she's just playing around, she won't give it to me. After the phone call, I think I'd be able to tell whether it was worth going further, whether she actually does listen, just get's confused between different guys, etc.

I don't think this women aren't looking for a relationship necessarily, just that they have a big selection, enjoy the attention, and don't want to miss out by focusing on one guy at first. So you've got to make yourself stand out if you want to go anywhere.
 
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That can understandably be a turn off, no doubt, but if you wish to continue, you should realize that you're going to have to do a lot of chasing. Personally, if I liked the girl, I'd realize she's got lots of suitors, which I don't see as a problem in and of itself. I would probably ask for her number and see if that goes anywhere. If she's just playing around, she won't give it to me. After the phone call, I think I'd be able to tell whether it was worth going further, whether she actually does listen, just get's confused between different guys, etc.

I don't think this women aren't looking for a relationship necessarily, just that they have a big selection, enjoy the attention, and don't want to miss out by focusing on one guy at first. So you've got to make yourself stand out if you want to go anywhere.

Well, maybe this one in particular could be interested in a relationship and understandably she is probably buried in messages. However, I don't know if you've actually been on the website or not, but I don't know how can you defend the notion that these people ARE looking for something serious when they simply don't reply to well thought out, messages. I'm not Brad Pitt, but I'm an attractive guy and I've never had a problem meeting girls in real life nor on eharmony. If someone even REMOTELY attractive and someone whose profile seemed interesting enough to me had sent me a message, I would INDEED at the very least respond to them.

If every attractive woman who was in this position of getting numerous emails from different suitors and none of them paid attention to what anyone wrote, well I don't think anybody would be meeting then.

What exactly do you mean by chasing? Sure, you're going to have make an effort to send messages out on these types of websites especially as a guy. However, I'm not chasing after someone who is simply not reading BASIC material from my previous messages. Like I said before, I'm not overly interested anyway. I'm more frustrated with the website itself.
 
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I once closed someone who sent me an email which was something like "so tell me about yourself?". I thought her line of questioning was lazy and asked her what did she wish to know? and I got a stupid reply so I clicked 'close'.
Women generally do not like making first move, and when they do, it is rather tenuous (habitual thing imposed by lopsided society that thinks males should pay for dinner) . Think you may have missed something there.

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All of the messages are laid out on the same page which makes it very convenient and is actually one of the few positive features I can vouch for on the site.
Um, no... only from one message / response thread... if new message (with new "topic"), new thread is started

As per OKCupid (been there), yes even moderately attractive women are flooded with requests (which can very easily create "delusions of superiority", but that is different thread)... reason I move to phone / personal email quickly... have met some really nice people there.
 
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olneyjeeps wrote :
Women generally do not like making first move, and when they do, it is rather tenuous (habitual thing imposed by lopsided society that thinks males should pay for dinner) . Think you may have missed something there.



Um, no... only from one message / response thread... if new message (with new "topic"), new thread is started

As per OKCupid (been there), yes even moderately attractive women are flooded with requests (which can very easily create "delusions of superiority", but that is different thread)... reason I move to phone / personal email quickly... have met some really nice people there.
couldn't agree more.
 
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Just not that into you and or bored. I re-read my messages to anyone I'm even remotely interested in.

Close and next!
 
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::shrug:: I've had that happen a couple times before. I remember in one case I forgave them and in another I did not--it all depends on the circumstances. Heck, you just justified talking to her even though you have little in common because she's hot. What better admission that many must-haves/can't stands depdend on the circumstances and are not so absolute as we sometimes make out.
 
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