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akilah712 wrote :
Hi,

I have a guy friend who I've known for 6 years. We've always liked each other, but we never dated. Four years ago I moved away to live in the same state as my boyfriend and go to graduate school. Anyway that relationship didn't work out.

So I moved back home recently. Anyway over the years we have kept in touch.

Recently we started hanging out again. We have a lot in common, we're both religious, and last week we sat in a parking lot talking for 6 hours.

Anyway, we were supposed to go out again but I cancelled after I remembered that he was a virgin. I was actually hoping he wasn't anymore.

I have personally made the decision not to have sex again until I am married for emotional and personal reasons.

However, I just can't help feeling like I'm not good enough for him.

We're both Christians and well obviously he's kept his vow of purity.

I am well aware that if the shoe was on the other, I wouldn't care. That is, if I was the virgin and he wasn't.

Thank you in advance for your feedback.
You need to forgive yourself. Nobody is perfect, and that is the reason for Christ.
 
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akilah712 wrote :
UPDATE

Hi all,

Thank you for your help with this issue.

I decided to continue seeing my friend.

After speaking with some others and reading your comments, I realized that I was really judging myself too harshly and seeing God as a judge only, as opposed to what my religion teaches which is that he is God of forgiveness and love.

Thanks again.
Make sure you let us know how your relationship goes with your friend.
 
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akilah712 wrote :
UPDATE

Hi all,

Thank you for your help with this issue.

I decided to continue seeing my friend.

After speaking with some others and reading your comments, I realized that I was really judging myself too harshly and seeing God as a judge only, as opposed to what my religion teaches which is that he is God of forgiveness and love.

Thanks again.
That is great. I hope things go well for you.

As an off-topic aside, with that sort of attitude you'll be the best kind of Christian and an example that more non-Christians will wish they could emulate.
 
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