The Hook Up Post

And to think there are actually people who wait until there's a wedding ring on their finger to do this!



Suzie

I have two beefs with you recitation of "Oxytocin makes me unable to think:"

- First, that differences in random individuals are almost always greater than differences in gender means.

The whole argument that "women are always emotionally disabled by sex" is as rediculous as the argument that "women are unable to do math, and thus should be steared away from ciriculum or occupations which involve math."

Just because it can be scientifically established that there is a difference in means by gender, does not support the over-the-top conclusion you keep posting.

Claims of that kind need better context to avoid eye-rolling.

- Two, due to both the above and personal philosophy, I refuse to allow decisions in my life based on assumption of gender stereotypes, when I can make my own observations of an individual.

Daily interaction on this service reveals that plently of women can have sex without their brain checking out, and plenty of men still get their sex ideas from the bible.

I don't like seeing (weak) arguments that use gender as a trump-card, to make claims far beyond the boundary of the validity of such claims.

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I think you know that, too.

30ish days. A lot can happen in 30 days

Exactly, so maybe you're better off waiting 7 months instead of 6, cuz who knows what the guy can do wrong in those 30 days. Better yet, wait 8 instead of 7. Even better, wait 9 instead of 8, cuz who knows. 10 would be even better than 9. Heck, waste a whole year of your life putting off sex waiting for the guy to be less than Disney.

You'd be surprised at how many (mostly under 35) women on OKCupid answer "will not have sex until married"

"I don't like seeing (weak) arguments that use gender as a trump-card, to make claims far beyond the boundary of the validity of such claims."

I think DL is right on track... far to many people buy into those "Men are from..." / "I'ts DNA" trash myths... DNA is a fluid / constantly changing map that YOU can habitually turn different options on or off. "You" choose what sex means to you.
When I hear "he used me" , I think
We all "use" each other... it's about finding "mutually beneficial'
The "he used me" person is just whining because she did not get what she wanted (and sorry, if you fell for the slick salesman, it is because you passed the honest "no bells / smooth lines" one up. It is my opinion that most guys that are "smooth" got that way by lots of practice. I hope never to lose my awkward signs of desire. Want to know where the perfect guy that has everything is? Keep watching the movies.

As for me, sex is the picture of what a person feels is important and how they choose to (or not to) communicate / how "naked" they will allow themselves to be. Some things I will not tolerate... lazy / "I deserve"... / "it's all about me"... sorry, does not matter how "beautiful" / brilliant... NEXT. The moment I feel is being used as some object of value which I must "deserve".... NEXT

Ummmmm.........I think you took my statement the WRONG way. I was being sarcastic. I'm well aware that there are alot of people that won't partake of premarital sex until they're wed. And yes, a few of them are abit older than 35.

If you read any of my earlier posts, I don't believe in just "having sex". I believe in "making love" and that happens when you're married and actually LOVE each other. Not just lusting after each other.


Suzie