Not feeling it after 3 dates

NO! There are lots of great guys that I'm not the least bit interested in.

You are right that its not the primary reason. I am, however, walking on eggshells because he has mentioned how picky it is when it comes to women and that he really likes me a lot. Right before our third date he said he wanted to be my boyfriend, but I told him it was too soon because we don't really know each other yet.

I wouldn't normally assume someone likes me that much, but he has made it obvious that he does.

I usually take the tact of putting the responsibility on myself, something along the lines of: "In thinking about it, I find myself feeling ambivalent about moving forward. That's my issue to deal with - not yours. I enjoyed spending time with you. But, after three dates, you deserve something more than ambivalence. I think it's best we not see each other again. I wish you well in your search."

I just don't get it, I guess. There's really no way for a rejection not to sting. Saying there's no chemistry/love connection/etc is basically telling the guy you aren't attracted to him and I don't see how someone should take that well.

I'd also be a little perturbed thinking "we had 3 dates even though you weren't attracted to me - why did you waste my time and money?"

The reason really doesn't matter, especially if it's a subjective one like attraction or chemistry. Let the person do some soul searching and maybe find some areas for self-improvements. It's amusing to me that people think veiled insults/criticisms are somehow letting someone down easy.

I had a third date with a guy last night and just was not feeling it. On our first date everything was great, second date not so much but I had a lot of stressful stuff going on so wanted to give him another chance. We went out last night and I am just not attracted to him at all. We did try kissing but it was hard to do. Our three dates have spanned over 3-4 weeks as we live over an hour apart. I am also moving further away in a few months.

After our first date we did discuss how the distance may be an issue, as well as since he is almost 10 years older he is fixed in his location, and when I finish school I may want to move closer to a zoo. (He lives nowhere near a place I could find work).

I really don't want to hurt his feelings because he is a nice guy. Even if I could become attracted to him, there are other personality issuses of ours that clash so I don't think this could ever work.

Would it be wrong to use the distance/job situation? I don't want to tell him I am not attracted to him because that seems mean.

Honestly I am not used to "dumping" a nice guy. Usually I have dated a guy for a while and then he becomes a jerk so it is then easy to break up.

So how do I end things? Also, I dunno if 3 dates warrent an in person "break up". There has been nothing aside from kissing in the physical departement. We also use IM as our form of communication. We never talk on the phone. We live over an hour apart so it will be another week or so before I could see him again in person.