Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #11  August 27,2011, 7:41am
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2. Deal with the fact that he was "honest" with me and not get my feelings hurt about the way the message was delivered?

At least you were told and not poofed on.
 
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Wow. I assume that by "physical"...you mean a sexual relationship?

My personal opinion...once a "sexual" relationship is established...nothing less than a personal face-to-face talk...will suffice. I simply cannot imagine the circumstances that would allow for anything less.
Given the casual attitude that many people have toward introducing sex into a relationship there is an equal casualness to breaking up.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
2. Deal with the fact that he was "honest" with me and not get my feelings hurt about the way the message was delivered?

At least you were told and not poofed on.
^^^ This. Physical or not, you only dated 2 months. Break-up via email is not all that uncommon at that point. A break-up when you don't want it stings no matter how it's delivered. If he told you in person you'd find something else to complain about because you just didn't want the break up in the first place.

I've been broken up with via email after 3+ years, and I've been poofed on after 1.5 years. A break up via email after 2 months? Pfftt. That' nothin'.
 
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^^^ This. Physical or not, you only dated 2 months. Break-up via email is not all that uncommon at that point. A break-up when you don't want it stings no matter how it's delivered. If he told you in person you'd find something else to complain about because you just didn't want the break up in the first place.

I've been broken up with via email after 3+ years, and I've been poofed on after 1.5 years. A break up via email after 2 months? Pfftt. That' nothin'.
I have to agree with this. Yes, a lot of people find in person or over the phone to be preferable, but the fact of the matter is that breakups are hard, on both sides so we don't often get the message in the most optimal way. And even then, in the times when someone has tried to do it in the most personal and direct way possible, it still stings. What I have personally realized throughout dating is I often can't impact the way the other person handles it, but I can affect my response.

I think the other posters are right in that if you liked this guy, it would have hurt regardless, unfortunately. Was he as polite and considerate of your feelings as he could have been, no probably not, but I don't think he was the worst guy either. If I were you I would spend less time dwelling on this guy and more time moving on.
 
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I agree with Beagle on this....it depends A LOT on your communication pattern outside of dates.

If you seemed to mostly talk via text/emails then it would be only natural do do it this way. Had you regularly talked on the phone then doing it this way is cowardly on his part.

FYI---women do this too.


His decision is a vlaid one where you two are 3 hrs apart and its possible he is looking and you and him and realize both of you are settled in on where you live and he doesnt see this progressing because who would pick up and move.
 
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I don't see a problem.

Some people communicate better if they write an email and edit it and get the message 100% right.

Surely what's important is to avoid being bitter and instead delete this loser from your life and move on?
 
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