So, what about guys that don't acknowledge your "thanks but no thanks" email?


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Nanette wrote :
Is that poofing?

I mean seriously how far do you take the "manners" argument?

It just seems ridiculous to me that someone would actually sweat such a thing.

There have been times with people that I havent met where I decide that I am just not attracted to them or dont want to meet them for some reason after exchanging more photos or a couple of emails and I message them to tell them so... and then just never heard from them again. Honestly my thoughts about it were that I was glad they didnt freak out!
Taking the time to send someone a "thanks but no thanks" email is a classy thing to do.

You have let them know how you feel, which is admirable. If they choose to reply, as long as they keep it respectful that's great. If not, your response has closed the door on anything further communication.

Do you really want your "thanks but no thanks" email acknowledged?
 
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Nanette wrote :
but for someone to get miffed over 1. someone they will never see again and 2. someone they dont even or barely even know... i just dont get that
Because it's disrespectful.

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You have let them know how you feel, which is admirable. If they choose to reply, as long as they keep it respectful that's great. If not, your response has closed the door on anything further communication.
I don't see the point of someone sending back an angry message after being rejected. The end result is that it will tell her she made the right decision. If they wanted to get back at her, the best way would be to send a friendly response that shows you aren't bothered in the least. Think about it.
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lots of people do and say disrespectful things that they offer no apologies for. why, right here on these very boards, even
 
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this is the other issue with this... that sort of thing coming from those that are completely oblivious to their own behavior that might be construed as similarly rude or "disrespectful"
 
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Nanette wrote :
lots of people do and say disrespectful things that they offer no apologies for. why, right here on these very boards, even
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What I don't get is why we're basically trying to justify a person saying they will meet up with someone but afterwards just completely ignoring the person as a way to reject them, leaving them hanging for several days in the process.

As if that is not rude behavior but just the "normal" way to reject someone?
 
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It's fine. Thanks but no thanks is a dismissal. There'd be no reason to read a response anyway, so why send one?
 
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