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So I've a got a wedding coming up this weekend (open bar, thank god), and I'm wondering if it's a good idea to take a lady I've been seeing for a couple months. It's not serious yet, though it may be going in that direction. Good idea? Bad idea? Who's done this before?
 
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Whose wedding is this? A family member? Or a friend? It may be too soon to take this woman you have been seeing for only a couple of months to a family wedding. It might be OK with a friend's wedding. How close are you to the couple getting married?

I also wonder, if you have been seeing this woman for a while, and the wedding is this coming weekend (3 days from now!) how is it that you have not thought to ask her before this?
 
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It's a friends wedding, which means I will know quite a few people there, and she'll only know me. I was planning on just flying solo, but, well, I kinda hate weddings, and I kinda like her.
 
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eH_Advice_Host_Gabriel wrote :
It's a friends wedding, which means I will know quite a few people there, and she'll only know me. I was planning on just flying solo, but, well, I kinda hate weddings, and I kinda like her.
I say go ahead a ask and let her know that if she's not comfortable going you'd understand. Have fun at the wedding.
 
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Dude, ditch the wedding and go somewhere fun.

Or, give her the choice (phrased in a way with no implied expectation.)

And, several months was enough to get the Manhattan Project underway - it's surely enough to know what minor social nuisances are worth dragging your girlfriend to!
 
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eH_Advice_Host_Gabriel wrote :
It's a friends wedding, which means I will know quite a few people there, and she'll only know me. I was planning on just flying solo, but, well, I kinda hate weddings, and I kinda like her.
Well, if I was the girl you are dating, I would be a little peeved that you waited until the Thursday before this weekend to ask me! Most women don't just have any old dress in their closet that they would wear to a wedding, especially with people they have never met before (your friends) who she would hope to impress.

Ask her, but realize, this is kinda short notice!
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
Well, if I was the girl you are dating, I would be a little peeved that you waited until the Thursday before this weekend to ask me! Most women don't just have any old dress in their closet that they would wear to a wedding, especially with people they have never met before (your friends) who she would hope to impress.

Ask her, but realize, this is kinda short notice!

This ^^^^^

Yes, kind of short notice....she might wonder why you waited so long to ask her.
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
Well, if I was the girl you are dating, I would be a little peeved that you waited until the Thursday before this weekend to ask me! Most women don't just have any old dress in their closet that they would wear to a wedding, especially with people they have never met before (your friends) who she would hope to impress.

Ask her, but realize, this is kinda short notice!
Mitchell, I don't disagree with what you're saying, but is it true that women really don't have a suitable dress in their closets to wear to a formal event? When I was married, I just though my ex used that excuse to justify going shopping. I mean, I have a tux in my closet, and could be showered, shaved, and ready for a formal event in less than a half hour.

Gabriel, ask your lady to the wedding, and have a great time!
 
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I would agree with some of the posters that it is pretty late now to ask her to make herself available for an event where she will be meeting your friends. However, if it's possible, to take some of the pressure off from actually sitting through the wedding ceremony itself you could just ask her to the dinner and reception. Less pressure, still as much, if not more, fun.
 
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I would never use a wedding as a first date...but if you are casually seeing her and have had some dates with her then Id suggest going with her....unless.....it depends on how your friends there are with your past girlfriends.
 
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