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sony12 is offline sony12 Post #1  August 17,2011, 7:20pm
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I wonder if it is just my experience or if it is often this way in general. I have gone on dates with my share of older women and often times they are the ones who want to be the aggressive ones and the 'pleasers'.

But by the same token when I have gone out with women my own age or younger they have been much more passive and though they kiss me right back when I put some advances on them they often seem like they want to be the ones who get 'pleased.'

So do a lot of women when they go out with younger guys do they just naturally become more aggressive and see him as the sex object. Or do you think my experiences with older women are just coincidence and (though they personally have been aggressive) women do not always naturally become more forward/aggressive when dealing with younger guys.
 
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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #2  August 17,2011, 7:50pm
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I think older women generally have more experience and thus more confidence in themselves which pretty much explains everything you're running into, now.
 
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TheThinker wrote :
I think older women generally have more experience and thus more confidence in themselves which pretty much explains everything you're running into, now.
Me, too.

The more experience she has, the more she knows her way around the bedroom, the more she knows what she needs, what he needs, the more confidence she gains...

Women get better with age. Men too.

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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #4  August 17,2011, 8:04pm
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yes, we get better with age.

but i dont "take charge" with younger men at all. its just not my way. unless they are a lot younger, annoying and dumb. but i dont date those.
 
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It depends alot on age and on general dating experience. If they are in their mid 30s or older they do know what they want...provided they have had their share of dating experience. Had they been married since 18 to high school sweetheartand just divorced at 34 and starting to dater again you will probably see the same passive behavior because they dont know how to ride the bike.


It also could be the ones you tend to attract based on personality....especially with the younger crowd...you tend to attract these shy timid ones...while this doesnt matter with older people.
 
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sony12 is offline sony12 Post #6  August 17,2011, 9:12pm
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Actually ami1uwant the divorced ones are some of the most sexually aggressive. In my opinion because a lot of them are just out to have a little fun with a younger guy.
 
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Most of the men I have dated (small sample size) have been 5 to 7 years younger than me. For whatever reason, they seem more interested in me than men my own age. I have not been sexually aggressive with any of them. But the ones that I was interested in certainly received the signal that I was interested.
 
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You say "older women", are we talking cougar type age gap. Cougars (back in the day we referred to them as belonging to the gun club) are going to naturally be more aggressive, they have an agenda more than age breeds experience stuff the older women are spouting.
 
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I think I agree with ami, that it's the type you attract. I'm late 30s and dated my share of younger guys, and while I may be more confident than in my younger days, I'm definitely not aggressive. If anything, I find the younger guys to be more bold than the ones my age, though that's probably because I prefer to date around my own age, so a younger guy has to be more persuasive

Maybe the older women you've dated have had to be more persuasive as well, so you're not dating the less aggressive ones?
 
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capsfan65 wrote :
I think I agree with ami, that it's the type you attract. I'm late 30s and dated my share of younger guys, and while I may be more confident than in my younger days, I'm definitely not aggressive. If anything, I find the younger guys to be more bold than the ones my age, though that's probably because I prefer to date around my own age, so a younger guy has to be more persuasive

Maybe the older women you've dated have had to be more persuasive as well, so you're not dating the less aggressive ones?
There might be something to that. In real life I have a rather strong personality and am quite confident in dealing with people so often the ones who I end up going out with are ones who can keep up with my personality (and I like people who can at least keep up with me because I get bored with ones who I would be making all the decisions with all the time). The younger girls I have gone out with have often gotten my attention because of looks instead of having the ability to 'handle' me

Also online I get a good share of attention and have a pretty intense weeding out process so the ones who do end up getting to the meeting phase with me are the ones who can keep up with me during the phase where I am deciding rather I want to meet them (often times I think the sexually passive people are often passive in other areas of their life as well (which includes getting to know people (so they often won't be as aggressive at carrying on conversations.))

So I might just be weeding out the non aggressive people.
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