WOW!! He was a SWinger... I'm speechless!


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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #51  August 18,2011, 10:08am
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Are you in a creative writing class or something? You must be making this stuff up. No one could get matched to as many, um, "interesting" folks as you do.
Real life is just too interesting to make up!! My goodness... it is truly amazing that I find myself in these situations... and here I think I'm just some sweet girl next door .... dating has sure opened my eyes to a lot of things, that's for sure.
 
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A lot of great advice has been suggested by people already. May I add a different slant on the issue?

As some of you may know, from time to time I will mention my job - divorce attorney for 22 years - and mention some specific experience I have had to make a point.

As divorce clients, I have had my share of swingers, "wife" swappers, and those into ... 'different' sexual practices than the vast majority of the adult public. And I have also had education in graduate school and in internships about these different subjects.

So that there is no question - I am heterosexual, have three children and have never engaged in any of the practices described in the prior paragraph.

I don't believe that he had an agenda or that he dropped the comment in because it was on his list of what to rule out in a first date. Based on the prior discussion, it seems to have come up innocently enough.

I'd take him at his word. If the subject comes up naturally and you feel it right, gently state your position on this subject. And then drop it. Let the relationship progress naturally. I would consider it a comment like "I've had blank, and I loved it" and put some disgusting food in the blank. It's a past experience. Doesn't say anything about the future. Or your experience with him.

Good luck, Jussmile, and you seem to have a great head on your shoulders!
 
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Actually, decided that was just a no-go for me. Told him so, he totally understood and was cool about it. I feel like I'm open to a lot of things, that one pretty much grosses me out though. Food, although new experiences may also gross me out, if the guy had eaten something I considered really gross and unedible, and it questioned whether or not I would ever want to kiss him? hmmm... that might be a non-starter.
 
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