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1passionatefem is offline 1passionatefem Post #1  August 17,2011, 2:05pm
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Beside online, what are your recommendations on where and how to met someone to date?
 
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Activities, coffee shops, museums, Thursday night meat markets.
 
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Yes, activities; just going about your regular business. Be involved in your community.

I'm in a Billiards Group; we play every Thursday. I'm not very good, but there's always some man there wants to help me improve my game.

Have you heard of this?

Do something, Learn something, Share something, Change something - Meetup

They have many groups arranged around common interests.

Also, reach out to both women and men. I figure, any person I meet today might introduce me to somebody I like...one year, two years, three years from now.

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nightling is offline nightling Post #4  August 17,2011, 2:46pm
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I would suggest cultivating an attitude of chit chatty open-ness every where you go. Every person you strike up a conversation with knows 50 people you do not.

A smile, comments about the surroundings, comments about the weather, noticing a special pin or decoration or hat, asking the time, asking for help, poking a little fun at yourself ... all of these can work to start the conversation ball rolling.

I have gotten some great story leads by doing this, and also met some fantastic people. Now and then one of those people will ask after some time of consistent interactions, say are you single? Because they know someone who is single too.

Other things you can do is think about the type of men you are interested in and places they'd be likely to frequent, assuming those are places you don't mind frequenting yourself. Sporting goods stores, golf courses, libraries, bookstores, festivals, etc depending on what you are looking for.

Likely there are some groups you could join that match your interests and there are the usual bars, coffee shops and so forth, but I would stick with fairly upscale venues with that. Rotate to different locations, get to know a different crowd. Don't hang back and it's probably better not to go with anyone. Go in with the idea that you will talk to at least 3 people (besides the bartender). I find this is actually much easier to do if you are by yourself, and you will get used to it if you practice.

Another option might be to enroll in an evening class at a nearby community college or other university or you could sign up to be a volunteer in something you find particularly worthwhile.
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Take a class like a dance class or a cooking class, join a church of your liking, join an affinity group, chat with people in the store, elevators etc... Its all good.
 
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1passionatefem wrote :
Beside online, what are your recommendations on where and how to met someone to date?
Work, friends (parties), or on rare occasion the bar. Those are the only three ways I've met women offline since I've been out of school.

I've never understood the people who say they meet at the grocery store, museums, etc. I'm not comfortable approaching strangers in those types of settings. I pretty much have to be introduced to them in some way, hence the work and social environments.
 
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tangochef wrote :
Activities, coffee shops, museums, Thursday night meat markets.
My friends always told me that there were all sorts of "hot" girls at Nickel Beer which was on Wednesday night.
 
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1passionatefem wrote :
Beside online, what are your recommendations on where and how to met someone to date?
The last time I ever got a date IRL without being introduced by friends was in high school.
 
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MW77009 wrote :
Take a class like an engineering class..
Fixt.
 
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Don't be afraid to walk up and say "Hi!" to people!

Don't let fear of rejection stand in your way. The only thing worse than going somewhere unfamiliar or asking for someone's phone number and getting shot down--is not and forever wondering what would've happened. And besides, it's rare that people actually shoot you down.

I got two phone numbers this weekend and both of us actively showed interest in one another. If you're sitting back waiting for men to make all the moves... well, how's that working for you? It takes two to tango!
 
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