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weenerdogs is offline weenerdogs Post #21  September 4,2011, 7:19pm

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Oh, yeah, there's nothin like meeting alcohol swilling females on "Nickel Beer" night. That's your higher quality types........NOT!

Whatever it is, don't mix booz with it.
 
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I always heard that when you least expect and arent looking someone will come along. After my 20 year marriage ended I found myself single for the first time since I was 15. I was scared and thought Id never meet any one again. In 7 years I got asked out a lot irl but was never attracted to anyone. I practised thanking them sweetly looking them in the eye saying I was flattered but not ready to date yet. I decided I would wait for a man I really wanted, even if I had to wait till I was 70, not just date people because they wanted me. I felt I was in danger of falling into the same traps as before unless I did some serious work on myself. When I met that man I would wait for him to ask me out I would never throw myself at a guy , I wanted him to really want me enough to make the first move. I went out dancing, took up singing and song writing, improved my education, worked on my mind, tried to become a better person. I practised eye contact, friendliness, pushed myself to do things I had never done before, all to become a better person, not with a focus on finding a man. I comited to the things that were important to me, mainly being available for my children, spent time evaluating exactly what were my values in life and what I wouldnt compromise on. I made hundreds of friends, lots of them men, and gained a reputation as a really decent nice person. I became very confident from a shrinking violet that I had been in a fairly abusive marriage. One day I decided my life was so great I really didnt need a man at all, but if one ever came along I would consider it. When I go out I scrub up pretty well, being fairly attractive and slim. As I became happy and confident I became even more attractive. So it was hilarious shortly after I decided that I didnt need a man I met my boyfriend when I was at work, wearing an ugly uniform and no makeup. He said he was attracted by my smile and friendliness, and I was immediately attracted to him too. I wont go on about him but the fact is he is a high quality man with solid values and I know he would never have looked twice at the old me. I was so happy in my life at that time it was a struggle for me to even want to compromise the life I had created to fit a relationship in, even though I really liked him but one year later I feel it is really worth it. So its true what they say, if you want a relationship, stop looking, appreciate what you do have, maximise your life, build a life where you are a solid strong and happy person on your own. Then it wont even matter if you never meet anyone, you will be happy instead of feeling you are missing out!
 
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So what I was trying to say was there are people everywhere and you make yourself more attractive if you take the focus off meeting a date and just enjoy your life on your own. You will radiate confidence so people will want to ask you out. For me to meet my man at work after all the parties, dances, bars, festivals, clubs etc I have gone to dresssed up and looking good proves its not about the places its about things happening at the right time for you and life working in mysterious ways.
 
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weenerdogs wrote :
Oh, yeah, there's nothin like meeting alcohol swilling females on "Nickel Beer" night. That's your higher quality types........NOT!

Whatever it is, don't mix booz with it.
Do places really sell beer for a nickel or is that just a saying? Why don't men who think dating is too expensive just take their dates there?
 
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Trevor80 is offline Trevor80 Post #25  September 6,2011, 12:45pm
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I met my current girlfriend through someone I met on eHarmony believe it or not. It didn't work out between the woman I met on eHarmony, but we remained friends. I used to go tango dancing, and she introduced me to my current girlfriend who is from Argentina, and is a phenomenal dancer. We hit it off immediately. It doesn't hurt that we have similar tastes in music, cinema, art, both love to travel, and we share political beliefs (big plus for me).

So my advice is to frequent activities. Get out there! In the past, I met a lot of women at museums, concerts, music festivals, photography classes, paintball outings, the gym, libraries, bookstores. You name it. I think when people have common interests, and it's an activity, the conversation will flow naturally.

Also, consider joining a site like meetup.com There are people who share your hobbies and tastes. Join a group, attend activities, meet people. You have everything to gain, and nothing to lose.
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1passionatefem wrote :
Beside online, what are your recommendations on where and how to met someone to date?

She asks of a group linked to on line dating
 
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Walk, take the bus, the train, or subway.

The museum is good. I was at museum in Florence; I think it was in Florence, anyway I was staring at "Starry Night", and a cute guy started talking to me about the picture. Although academia informs us that there is a purpose behind the artistic interpretations...we all can have our own opinions about a painting or an object
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Jackedup wrote :
Walk, take the bus, the train, or subway.

The museum is good. I was at museum in Florence; I think it was in Florence, anyway I was staring at "Starry Night", and a cute guy started talking to me about the picture. Although academia informs us that there is a purpose behind the artistic interpretations...we all can have our own opinions about a painting or an object
'The Starry Night' is at MoMA in NYC But we get the gist of your story...
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Abortion Clinic?, that is way too funny.
 
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