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Nick1985 is offline Nick1985 Post #1  August 16,2011, 12:16pm
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Hi, would like some feedback on the following excuse for cancelling a first meet to see if my response to this is reasonable or not (this is following the first arranged meet being cancelled by my date for work related reasons). Basically she texted me on the morning of the date to say her washing machine broke the night before and she therefore needed to spend the evening in a laundrette. This was supposed to be an introductory first meet having met on eh (she suggested it in the first place) for a couple of drinks so no substantial evening planned, but still it's left me feeling a little wary. She proposed rescheduling for the weekend, and for some reason I get the feeling she really doesn't want to meet midweek for some reason. Thoughts?
 
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I've had a washing machine break. They don't break without clothes in them by the way. It's usually when they are full of clothes, water and soap, so taking care to get those clothes clean is important, otherwise you have a HUGE mess on your hands and possibly ruined clothing! Oh, and then there is the task of getting the water out of the tub!

OK, so you may think her reason is actually a lame excuse, when in fact it sounds pretty legit to me. The whole not wanting to meet mid week is also very common. When I worked a demanding job I wanted my after work time to be completely "me" time, not being on my game meeting a new date.

But, if you are not comfortable with her reason or only meeting on the weekends, then don't do it.
 
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I would give her another shot if.
 
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Heppe is offline Heppe Post #4  August 16,2011, 12:29pm
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Cancelling should be avoided at all possible costs. I would proceed but with caution and reservation.
 
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It's not a good sign at all that this is the second cancellation...

I do find it odd that if she cancelled in the AM...why she would have spent the whole day and evening in a laundromat? So that is why it doesn't seem as plausible to me.

How far away from eachother are you? Unless I was 15 minutes or so one way...I wouldn't plan a first date on a weeknight either. It's much more relaxed on a weekend.

I guess you'll know more if you actually end up going out this weekend...I would check in with her that morning to make sure things are set so you can plan your evening if she bails again...Good luck!
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Nick1985 wrote :
Hi, would like some feedback on the following excuse for cancelling a first meet to see if my response to this is reasonable or not (this is following the first arranged meet being cancelled by my date for work related reasons). Basically she texted me on the morning of the date to say her washing machine broke the night before and she therefore needed to spend the evening in a laundrette. This was supposed to be an introductory first meet having met on eh (she suggested it in the first place) for a couple of drinks so no substantial evening planned, but still it's left me feeling a little wary. She proposed rescheduling for the weekend, and for some reason I get the feeling she really doesn't want to meet midweek for some reason. Thoughts?
well, either she is legit...or she's blowing you off and her excuses are becoming much more imaginative...take your pick.
At least she proposed the weekend date..which means you're at the top of her queue..so, did you take her up on it??If so go on the date and forget about it.
But if she breaks the next date, I'd say it's done
 
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The fact that there was an offer to reschedule is good news, but the fact that she's now cancelled on you twice is not so good news. It makes me wonder if she's not interested, but wants you to be the one to call the whole thing off.
 
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Ingytravel wrote :
It's not a good sign at all that this is the second cancellation...

I do find it odd that if she cancelled in the AM...why she would have spent the whole day and evening in a laundromat? So that is why it doesn't seem as plausible to me.
Possible scenario..
Wednesday morning, she's throwing a load of clothes in before work, said washing machine decides to take a dump, right there..like Andie says, they always STB with the tub full...'tis true, in my experience.
She still has to go to work, so she decides to go to the laundromat when she gets back home that night.

Possible...
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You could say.........."Hey, the idea was just to meet, how about I come by and keep you company at the laundrette for a couple of hours."

If you do that over the phone you will get a real good idea of what is going on. I think this works perfect either way. If she is blowing you off the jig is up. If not, then she will probably think it is really sweet.
 
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I don't see this as a good situation.

The way that I would proceed is to accept her offer to reschedule but continue to look at other matches and schedule any dates with other matches mid week that I might have an opportunity for.
 
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