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Sporty_geek is offline Sporty_geek Post #11  August 16,2011, 4:56pm

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I am 100% mom of 3 kids from Kindergarten to middle school. My advice is to not assume....I have help every weeknight evening so I usually do first and second dates during the week. I can have my kids stay at their friends or have a babysitter on weekends. If I am into a guy I can be available. I am however, pickier about who I will go out with because I don't have tons of spare time, and I like spending time with my family so I like to at least talk on the phone first and get a sense of whether I think we are compatable before I say yes to a meet.

Another thing men have told me is a positive is that they don't have to worry about my ex or deal with all the dynamics of having an ex.

Good luck with it!
Similar situation and that's true for me also. People who have their children more tend to have more resources, since we do have to have an adult social life in order to be well-rounded individuals for our children. That being said, i do Value the time I spend with them, therefore this date would have to be worth it.
 
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I don't guess I'm truly a 100% mom because my kids are supposed to go to their dad's but the visits aren't always as regular as they should be. (Not because of me, but because he chooses not to see them.)

My children are old enough to be home for an evening alone now, but I don't leave them alone overnight so my bf & I work out our weekends together around their schedule. When I was not in a relationship, I didn't want to share every date I had with my family so I hired babysitters to make the schedule work sometimes.

It is harder to make it work when you can't rely on the other parent for whatever reason, but I have to agree with Coffeetogo--for the right man, you can make it work.
 
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I've been a 100%er for the past 4 years. You can count the overnights with someone special on one hand. We just have to spend our time wisely. Really, between my kids, my boyfriend, job, house, I have very little social life or free time. I'm sure that's how it is with him as well. You just do what you have to do. Kinda stinks sometimes.

My boyfriend cool with not seeing each other much. You will just have to start out with babysitters the first couple of months and then, if you see potential, introduce the kids and start going out with them. It can work...I wouldn't rule him out at all.
 
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I've been a 100%er for the past 4 years. You can count the overnights with someone special on one hand. We just have to spend our time wisely. Really, between my kids, my boyfriend, job, house, I have very little social life or free time. I'm sure that's how it is with him as well. You just do what you have to do. Kinda stinks sometimes.

My boyfriend cool with not seeing each other much. You will just have to start out with babysitters the first couple of months and then, if you see potential, introduce the kids and start going out with them. It can work...I wouldn't rule him out at all.
Has anyone been in a relationship that didn't work because of the 100% issue? I would not be cool with not seeing each other much...
 
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Has anyone been in a relationship that didn't work because of the 100% issue? I would not be cool with not seeing each other much...
Jussmile, I've mostly dated men who had kids who were considerably older than mine, so they aren't accustomed to accommodating kid schedules anymore. It has only been an issue for one of them and he was willing to work with me. Our relationship didn't work out, but it wasn't because of my kids.

If it's important to you that you see him often during the week, then this may not be the relationship for you. The truth is that I'm really not available to do much on weeknights because my kids are always home then and I feel a responsibility to be there since there is no one else they can depend on. It helped when my bf and I got to a point where we felt ready to include my kids in our plans, but before that, we really only saw one another on weekends.
 
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