Creating a 'Man List': Good Idea?

Creating a 'Man List': Good Idea?

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themicrochip is offline themicrochip Post #1  August 15,2011, 8:20am
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 Red Flag!  Very bad idea.  Very, very bad idea.   Get rid of the lists and just open yourself to a range.
 
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If you read it all, it isn't that bad an idea.
 
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The article basically advises to get rid of all the things on your "picky" list, and focus only on the top 10 things, none of which can include things like appearance.

And, it goes on to say that the only things on your list that you can tell people about - including listing them on your online profile - are the top 3.

So, if you read the article, you will see that it actually contains some good advice.
 
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Done right, they can stir the Universe up in the right direction and deposit "Mr. Fabulous for You" right on your doorstep!

^^^Uhhmmm...OK, if you say so.

That said, I think it does behoove a person to focus on what really matters:

2. Take your list down to 10 items only
3. Pick three items off of your list of 10.

Basically, what I did...between marriages. Narrowed it down to what I absolutely had to have...in terms of Character. And the most important step of all:

4. Now, I want you to make his list.

The last cannot be stressed enough.

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Maybe eHarmony should follow this advice. They almost have this in the MHCS. Except that they force 20 items, 10 MH and 10 CS. And they have some appearance items in their list.
 
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How about if guys create a "woman list"
 
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There really should be no more than 3 deal-breaker items. Anything more and she's being unrealistic.
 
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I don't think this is a bad idea...to be clear on what is important and what isn't...and to use to check yourself when you are meeting people.

Mine went something like this (but there were 10 or 11):
1. No addictions/legal trouble.
2. Honest.
3. Interested in and ready for a LTR/marriage.
4. Employed/financially responsible...

It needs to be items like "Is good to his family and friends" not "never wears white sport socks with trousers, I HATE THAT!" Smile.
 
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4. Now, I want you to make his list. Put yourself in his shoes. I want you to write down everything that you feel that your "list man" would seek in a partner. What would make your dream guy happy? If you have no idea, think of all of the happily married couples that you know, and interview the men! What are their favorite things about their wives? Write those things down. Now, it's time to have an honest and introspective pow wow with yourself about what you have to offer on his list.
I'd be curious to see how different people answer this...
 
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