petit_pixel is offline petit_pixel Post #1  July 28,2011, 5:57pm
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Was supposed to have a second date last night and I wasn't feeling well. Called earlier in the day to cancel and we decided to raincheck for Sunday.

After spending time resting for the afternoon I felt better and called to say I'd be up for meeting at the restaurant if he was still available.

He never called back. I'm wondering if somehow I came across as too flakey or wishy washy. I probably should have just left it and met on Sunday as planned, but I legimitately felt better and wanted to salvage the evening.

So, did I mess things up? Also, I still haven't heard back so now I'm wondering what I should do about Sunday.

~Puzzled in PA
 
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melvimbe is offline melvimbe Post #2  July 28,2011, 6:07pm
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Just leaving it to him to get back to you. I'm kinda of the believe that timing is important, and it should be easy, at first anyway. You can't do anything about being sick, but it does mess things up. It would have been better to just let it go and stick with Sunday, but shouldn't be that big of a deal.

Since it's a 2nd date, I would think he'd have some understanding...
 
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Personal opinion here so take that for what is worth.

This early into a relationship you should have left it at Sunday. After you had canceled he probably made other plans with friends.

As for what you do about Sunday. You go to the restaurant. The ball is in his court to call you. If he doesn't call between now and Sunday you still go to the restaurant. Plan on being early and just meet him at the door in case he does not show. However Sunday turns out you will have your answer about if you messed up and what type of guy he is. Actually if he was a thoughtful guy he would have called to ask how you were feeling.
 
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It is what it is. If he's someone who jumps to conclusions or assumes the worst about people, he's better dodged anyway.

However, I wouldn't cancel then call back with a "nevermind - I feel good now!" It wouldn't play at work, so it's safe to assume it won't make a wonderful first impression for a date. You weren't wrong but it wasn't a great move. Health issues as excuses aren't particularly endearing and fleeting ones are even more suspect.
 
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I probably would've waited until Sunday, but no sense torturing yourself over it. If he's interested... trust me... he'll call back to confirm for Sunday. The ball is in his court, just give him a bit of time to respond.

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You're reading a bit too much into the fact that you didn't get an immediate return call. There are any number of legitimate reasons why he hasn't gotten your message.

And yes, honestly, you did seem pretty wishy-washy and personally, I would be annoyed. Either come or don't. None of this back and forth.

If it turns out the guy really is a little miffed, can you blame him?
 
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petit_pixel wrote :
Was supposed to have a second date last night and I wasn't feeling well. Called earlier in the day to cancel and we decided to raincheck for Sunday.

After spending time resting for the afternoon I felt better and called to say I'd be up for meeting at the restaurant if he was still available.

He never called back. I'm wondering if somehow I came across as too flakey or wishy washy. I probably should have just left it and met on Sunday as planned, but I legimitately felt better and wanted to salvage the evening.

So, did I mess things up? Also, I still haven't heard back so now I'm wondering what I should do about Sunday.

~Puzzled in PA
Here's a possibility:
He might have thought you came up with the excuse just to "back burner" him, then when your 1st choice date canceled, you decided to go out, with him...
I would not blame him for imagining this scenario, either.
And I'm sure it's not the first time someone has done this.
 
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You set up plans for Sunday...wait till then and see what happens.

He likely made other plans since you cancelled.
 
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I'm going to go ahead and disagree with almost everyone and say I don't think this is a big deal. I turned down a first date with a guy one afternoon, and then texted him later when my other plans fell through. He didn't mind at all. My guess is that he just made other plans. Give it a few days.
 
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