diverdown is offline diverdown Post #1  July 28,2011, 5:39am
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Maybe some of you can provide some insite on this. I am new to EH and am not sure this is the way to go. I have had 2 matches in the past few weeks that I was in communication with. They both seemed like good matches. We communicated briefly with short phone calls. I received great texts from both, expressing how excited they were to meet me. They were eager to meet and we picked a day to meet. They had the meeting planned out, and so did I. The day comes and they disappear. Never to hear from them again. What is the point?? Some of you complain when someone cancels at the last minute. It would be nice if I could get that...LOL. I am frustrated because I am a busy person and like to stay busy, so now I go with their plan and end up sitting home wondering. They were weekend days too, ughh!

I cant even take it personally because we never even met or had long, drawn out discussions. I guess I am in awe that someone can be that arrogant and rude to think only their time is valuable.....WOW!
Just wondering if this is what I should expect, if it is, forget it!
 
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Welcome to online dating... you just never know. Men and women do it. It won't be the first time it happens to you... there will be times when a date goes so extremely well, that you think you've found what you're looking for, and want to get to know the person better... and then they disappear, or don't feel the same, or just not ready.

IMO, online dating is much different than IRL dating. IRL, when you meet someone, there is a connection that is there, and you both are interested in moving forward to see what happens. A lot of time, you weren't even looking for it. Online, everyone is looking for it, so we all become a "number" basically. Something better can come along just as easily as you did. Most people are talking to several people at once, so you never know where you compare in the scheme of things.

Don't be frustrated... just know what to expect and get ready for it... People have found true love as well. Could go either way.
 
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I know and understand that people are probably talking to others. I am cool with that. Guess just wishing if they cant make the plans a simple text/call to cancel would be nice. Guess I just have to buck up and realize integrity is not part of some peoples persona...LOL. Such wishful thinking !!
 
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I know and understand that people are probably talking to others. I am cool with that. Guess just wishing if they cant make the plans a simple text/call to cancel would be nice. Guess I just have to buck up and realize integrity is not part of some peoples persona...LOL. Such wishful thinking !!
You're going to be totally surprised at the kind of people you run into with online dating. I can tell you some horror stories ... good thing too, I can also tell you of some very sweet, kind, just all around great people! There are so many different personalities out there, online dating really gives you a completely different way of seeing the world from so many different perspectives. I, even knowing how different people can be, didn't even realize the mass differences before online dating.

You'll see... there are many different types. I've also met some really good friends through online dating, so not all the types are going to leave that sour taste in your mouth .
 
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diverdown wrote :
Maybe some of you can provide some insite on this. I am new to EH and am not sure this is the way to go. I have had 2 matches in the past few weeks that I was in communication with. They both seemed like good matches. We communicated briefly with short phone calls. I received great texts from both, expressing how excited they were to meet me. They were eager to meet and we picked a day to meet. They had the meeting planned out, and so did I. The day comes and they disappear. Never to hear from them again. What is the point?? Some of you complain when someone cancels at the last minute. It would be nice if I could get that...LOL. I am frustrated because I am a busy person and like to stay busy, so now I go with their plan and end up sitting home wondering. They were weekend days too, ughh!

I cant even take it personally because we never even met or had long, drawn out discussions. I guess I am in awe that someone can be that arrogant and rude to think only their time is valuable.....WOW!
Just wondering if this is what I should expect, if it is, forget it!
The flake factor is even more reason to have as many matches in communication...as you can handle.
The odds are that two will not get you to a meeting...that's just the way it is.
 
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they probably weren't single./available.
 
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diverdown wrote :
We communicated briefly with short phone calls. I received great texts from both, expressing how excited they were to meet me. They were eager to meet and we picked a day to meet. They had the meeting planned out, and so did I. The day comes and they disappear.
My system--even if we speak on the phone, I make sure they confirm the date details by e-mail, and I re-confirm the day of the date. First dates typically get a weekday evening. I've been on many eH dates and have never been stood up (knock on wood).

I did have a non-eH date who "forgot" out date which I discovered when I re-confirmed. No, she didn't get a second chance.
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My first and only eH date is now my girlfriend of almost 5 months so keep your head up, attitude positive and good things may just well happen.

I can tell you that people on other sites have been just ridiculous. I've come across a lot of rude, arrogant, trampy, or clinically insane people on other dating sites. Generally I think this site is less appealing to the type of people that show up on OCK/Match etc but a few of them still end up on here.
 
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my experience of "match" and other sites compared to E.H. is the same as Jimmy's. perhaps the application process and how the site isn't easy to just use to play on thus keeps a larger portion of the troublesome people away.
 
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diverdown wrote :
Maybe some of you can provide some insite on this. I am new to EH and am not sure this is the way to go. I have had 2 matches in the past few weeks that I was in communication with. They both seemed like good matches. We communicated briefly with short phone calls. I received great texts from both, expressing how excited they were to meet me. They were eager to meet and we picked a day to meet. They had the meeting planned out, and so did I. The day comes and they disappear. Never to hear from them again. What is the point?? Some of you complain when someone cancels at the last minute. It would be nice if I could get that...LOL. I am frustrated because I am a busy person and like to stay busy, so now I go with their plan and end up sitting home wondering. They were weekend days too, ughh!

I cant even take it personally because we never even met or had long, drawn out discussions. I guess I am in awe that someone can be that arrogant and rude to think only their time is valuable.....WOW!
Just wondering if this is what I should expect, if it is, forget it!
I am a wee bit confused by your OP here

Did you go to the place of meeting and get stood up when they did not show up? Or did you never go because they did not keep in constant communication with you until the actual minute that you met? The way I am reading your OP is that you never went to the meeting place.

Surely on a first date you are following safe dating recommendation and not having them pick you up.
 
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