Bodacious is offline Bodacious Post #1  June 26,2008, 5:30pm
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I was just wondering what everyone's opinion is on people who go "poof". I mean, you've been communicating regularly, whether it be OC or phone and then for one reason or another, they stop communicating. Is it just easier for some people not to respond then give an honest answer? I for one would prefer an honest answer rather to be left wondering..."was it something I said/did?"


And guys. do gals do this often to you?
 
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Lack of character or accountability oftentimes causes people to avoid confrontational things like telling someone you aren't interested or just simply letting someone know what is going on in your life. It is a lot easier for most folks to run from having to fess up to their true feelings or face the hurt from the other person finding out how they really feel than to do the right thing and just tell them.



I know that girls do it too, but I don't know if it is as often, or often period.
 
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What? You meaneverybody I had been communicating with in the past did not just suddenly enter WITSEC?
 
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Amen. I have been frustrated numerous times by this phenomenon. I think many people have difficulty being honest and try to avoid confrontation. Or they are just being inconsiderate. I had a date with a guy that lasted over three hours. He seemed very interested. We talked a few times and then he fell off the face of the earth. After a week of no contact I emailed him and asked him to please just let me know that he wasn't interested. I think it caught him off guard. He called and we had a very flakey conversation and then he said "Thanks for being upfront and we'll talk soon". Never heard another word. I will be curious to hear the male perceptive on this topic.
 
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Ugh, this happened to me with the most promising match I've had on eH in over two years. We were communicating off eH and his last message to me was "I'll email you again tonight when I get home." Since he lives in a rural area where his internet goes out frequently, I didn't think anything about not hearing from him for a while and keep sending communications as if nothing was wrong. Eventually...slowly... I got the hint and then felt like a total fool.


That situation, in my opinion,is the most cowardly and disrespectful thing I think I've ever run into with online dating.There is a good chance we will eventually run into each other in some other venue. Whilewe had the potential to be friends at the very least, should he have second thoughts he'sout of luck, since I already know how he treats people he no longer has any use for. Some matches you close, others it's more appropriate to flush.
 
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TallGuy65,152882 wrote :

What? You mean everybody I had been communicating with in the past did not just suddenly enter WITSEC?
very funny TallGuy[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif[/img]
 
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I agree with you Martha and you too J. I think that perhaps people just don't want to have the confrontation, but I guess I still believe in the old adage "what goes around comes around". I just think people should treat others the way the want to be treated.....but maybe that's just me
 
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Well, I can honestly say, it was a, "my bad" on my part. I was in OC with someone when I had forgot that I had canceled my membership due to lack of communications prior to this one. Unfortunately, we didn't exchange personal email, phone numbers, etc... being that we had just started to communicate when the cancelation took effect.
 
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NerdyHobbit,152900 wrote :

Well, I can honestly say, it was a, "my bad" on my part. I was in OC with someone when I had forgot that I had canceled my membership due to lack of communications prior to this one. Unfortunately, we didn't exchange personal email, phone numbers, etc... being that we had just started to communicate when the cancelation took effect.
OMG! That's sad, but really funny! Aty least you're honest about it....I get SO frustrated by this. It seems that on the whole, guys (maybe girls to, but I don't have any experience with them, so...GUYS) Always seem to be searching for something better. I mean, if you start talking with me, are you waiting for Ms. Skinnier, younger, Whatever to come along? Also the matches that never close you out, never communicate, nothing. I HATE THOSE!!!!! I even have it in my profile. "Communicate with me, close me out, just respond in some way! Just please don't leave me hanging!" I didn't put on there (although I wanted to) about how rude it was. Gotta charm them somehow!








I'll climb down off my soapbox now. :P
 
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luvablefrog,152912 wrote :

NerdyHobbit,152900 wrote :


Well, I can honestly say, it was a, "my bad" on my part. I was in OC with someone when I had forgot that I had canceled my membership due to lack of communications prior to this one. Unfortunately, we didn't exchange personal email, phone numbers, etc... being that we had just started to communicate when the cancelation took effect.


OMG! That's sad, but really funny! Aty least you're honest about it....I get SO frustrated by this. It seems that on the whole, guys (maybe girls to, but I don't have any experience with them, so...GUYS) Always seem to be searching for something better. I mean, if you start talking with me, are you waiting for Ms. Skinnier, younger, Whatever to come along? Also the matches that never close you out, never communicate, nothing. I HATE THOSE!!!!! I even have it in my profile. "Communicate with me, close me out, just respond in some way! Just please don't leave me hanging!" I didn't put on there (although I wanted to) about how rude it was. Gotta charm them somehow!








I'll climb down off my soapbox now. :P
It's ok. I have experienced that myself when I was on Match a while back. Seemed like when you're specific, they aren't, and when you're not, they are and blunt about it. I found that quite amusing!!


One time I was being a smart ass and had wiggled, "I am looking for someone that makes no less than six figures a year, take me traveling to exotic places, must look fabulous in jeans as well as dress, and have no baggage whatsoever" into my profile as a, "trying to be sarcastic and funny at the same time." Well, needless to say, it didn't work. I have never received so much hate mail in my life. They were pouring in by the drones. Seemed they failed to continue on where I mentioned I was kidding and only in a fantasy world does that happen. At least I could say I got lots of email. ;-)
 
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