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I don't know why, but I've had it happen, and I think it's so disrespectful. They seem to feel that because they're online, they really don't owe you anything.
 
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japaneseblueeyes,155159 wrote :

ThePriestess,155129 wrote :


Bodacious, wrote :


I was just wondering what everyone's opinion is on people who go "poof".


It's called spontaneous combustion and it's not a myth.


Get the facts ... protect yourself and those you love ... before it's too late.


Just for the record this happens only when you fall asleep while smoking in flammable clothing. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-innocent.gif[/img]
Or if you eat a can of beans and fall asleep beside the campfire...
 
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Bodacious, wrote :

I was just wondering what everyone's opinion is on people who go "poof". I mean, you've been communicating regularly, whether it be OC or phone and then for one reason or another, they stop communicating. Is it just easier for some people not to respond then give an honest answer? I for one would prefer an honest answer rather to be left wondering..."was it something I said/did?"


And guys. do gals do this often to you?
Yes girls do this too [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-frown.gif[/img].
 
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marthak,152885 wrote :

Ugh, this happened to me with the most promising match I've had on eH in over two years. We were communicating off eH and his last message to me was "I'll email you again tonight when I get home." Since he lives in a rural area where his internet goes out frequently, I didn't think anything about not hearing from him for a while and keep sending communications as if nothing was wrong. Eventually...slowly... I got the hint and then felt like a total fool.


That situation, in my opinion, is the most cowardly and disrespectful thing I think I've ever run into with online dating. There is a good chance we will eventually run into each other in some other venue. While we had the potential to be friends at the very least, should he have second thoughts he's out of luck, since I already know how he treats people he no longer has any use for. Some matches you close, others it's more appropriate to flush.
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You have to decide how you want to live your life - in truth or deceit. If it is truth, which I assume it is, then as soon as you notice dishonesty - FLUSH ASAP![img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img]


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Bodacious, wrote :

I was just wondering what everyone's opinion is on people who go "poof". I mean, you've been communicating regularly, whether it be OC or phone and then for one reason or another, they stop communicating. Is it just easier for some people not to respond then give an honest answer? I for one would prefer an honest answer rather to be left wondering..."was it something I said/did?"


And guys. do gals do this often to you?
People (both men and women) go "poof" for one simple reason:


He/she is NOT ATTRACTED to you! (in the global sense which encompasses physical, emotional, and social factors).


Read "He just isn't that into to you" (or the companion volume for men). Usually, it is easier to disappear or avoid contact rather than say uncomfortable things and we all have been on BOTH sides of that conundrum.


There is no point in railing about how "rude" or "discourteous" or "confusing it is...just understand and accept that if he/she isn't calling you, seeing you, making time for you...they just are NOT THAT INTERESTED. Let it go and move on--even when it sucks and you are disappointed. Good luck to all!
 
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scorpio,155204 wrote :

I don't know why, but I've had it happen, and I think it's so disrespectful. They seem to feel that because they're online, they really don't owe you anything.
They don't owe you anything. Your expectations and desires simply are out-of-line with theirs.


I know ina perfect world, he/she would write you a lovely message telling you how wonderful you are and letting you down easy for "closure." The simple fact is that most of the time, when someone is not that interested in you, they are not going to take the time (if they had that much concern and empathy for you, then they wouldn't be "not into you" in the first place!)


If someone goes "poof" (however you choose to define the length of time it takes to call it that), just accept that they are in effect saying "thank you, but no thanks".


We have all been there....
 
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I have no problem with them not being interested.......that's a normal reaction we all expected when we joined.


What I didn't expect......were the "poofers".......the ones who lack the simple courage to say....


I'm moving on now........it was fun getting to know you.





Courtesy.......that's all........and the poofers have none.
 
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twoshadesofblue2004,155138 wrote :

How susceptible are we to "poofing"?


What at the facts?
There are over 10,000 documented cases each year. Over half of these occur in the United States alone. It is widely thought the numbers are significantly higher, due to a lack of reporting or understanding of the phenomena. Skepticism has hindered research into preventitive measures.


While there are no definitive causal agents, we do know that women who drink excessively and smoke are in the highest risk category.
 
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ThePriestess,155383 wrote :

twoshadesofblue2004,155138 wrote :


How susceptible are we to "poofing"?


What at the facts?


There are over 10,000 documented cases each year. Over half of these occur in the United States alone. It is widely thought the numbers are significantly higher, due to a lack of reporting or understanding of the phenomena. Skepticism has hindered research into preventitive measures.


While there are no definitive causal agents, we do know that women who drink excessively and smoke are in the highest risk category.
UH???? are you talking in code? [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-smile.gif[/img]


...100% agree with MPdoc68...but it is still soooo hurtful when they just... disappear. One of my girlfriends is currently agonizingabout this guy she'd been chatting online with, for over a month, that just went "poof"....she is out of her mind with worry...and is sure he had a heartattack or someone died...it is so fresh right now that she can't hear..."you know...maybe he's realized that he just was not interested, and has moved on, and really didn't care enuf to say bye.."...now.....thathurts..
 
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