Christians and Dating: What to Expect

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Diana_P is offline Diana_P Post #1  July 14,2011, 7:59pm
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Great article!
 
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This article lists some of the main reasons I don't just engage in "Christian" dating. I make a point to only date Bible believing independent Baptists. That eliminates a lot of the silliness of pseudo "Christians" who don't take a biblical stand on, for instance, sex before marriage, or the purpose of pursuing a romantic relationship.

Not that there aren't still difficulties, and a need for communication--just not in the areas this article covers. So, you eliminate all of the needless complications you can before you ever get to a dating stage. It makes the road much smoother.
 
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PreachersSon wrote :
This article lists some of the main reasons I don't just engage in "Christian" dating. I make a point to only date Bible believing independent Baptists. That eliminates a lot of the silliness of pseudo "Christians" who don't take a biblical stand on, for instance, sex before marriage, or the purpose of pursuing a romantic relationship.

Not that there aren't still difficulties, and a need for communication--just not in the areas this article covers. So, you eliminate all of the needless complications you can before you ever get to a dating stage. It makes the road much smoother.
I am thinking that your views limits your dating pool to members of you own church.
 
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The article brings up some things that I have noticed in my dating trip.
 
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I am thinking that your views limits your dating pool to members of you own church.
Not necessarily only my own church, but definitely my own kind of church. What's wrong with that? If we wind up together, we'll be going to the same church anyway. Shouldn't we agree up front what kind it will be?

My main point, though, was that I know what is taught in independent Baptist churches (particularly as regards dating, sex before marriage, Christian dress and deportment, and marriage), so that would avoid an awful lot of the "But my pastor says it's okay to live together first" (Okay, so he'd probably just say "It doesn't really matter. Do whatever you feel is right." which amounts to the same thing.) type of nonsense, and gives us a common basis to build on--or at least a better chance at one.

It's amazing the problems you can avoid by engaging your brain before you engage in dating, especially if you are a committed Christian.
 
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Thanks but no thanks. I'll stick with dating sinners.
 
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Thanks but no thanks. I'll stick with dating sinners.
Well, as the saying goes, Christians are "just sinners saved by grace." We're "not perfect, just forgiven." And most of us aren't conceited enough to forget that.
 
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This is an interesting article, although I am not a "Christian" trying to date other "Christians". I had a discussion recently in another thread with a poster about whether I should try a site like ChristianMingle.com. I said that since I do not identify as "Christian" that I would not be a good fit for that site. He argued that since I am "Catholic", that means I am "Christian" - meaning "I believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of God".

Technically, true, but I don't think that most of the "Christians" on ChristianMingle use that as their primary criteria. More likely, they think in terms of being "saved". Since I am not "saved", I would not be a good fit for that site.

I do not make it a point to seek out "Christians" to date. I am not sure that I would be a good fit with them, being a "heathen" and all. I do have a certain set of personal values and morals, but I do not equate them specifically to bible teachings, nor do I think in terms of "What Would Jesus Do?"

Not that there's anything wrong with that... Do Christians watch Seinfeld?
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
This is an interesting article, although I am not a "Christian" trying to date other "Christians". I had a discussion recently in another thread with a poster about whether I should try a site like ChristianMingle.com. I said that since I do not identify as "Christian" that I would not be a good fit for that site. He argued that since I am "Catholic", that means I am "Christian" - meaning "I believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of God".

Technically, true, but I don't think that most of the "Christians" on ChristianMingle use that as their primary criteria. More likely, they think in terms of being "saved". Since I am not "saved", I would not be a good fit for that site.

I do not make it a point to seek out "Christians" to date. I am not sure that I would be a good fit with them, being a "heathen" and all. I do have a certain set of personal values and morals, but I do not equate them specifically to bible teachings, nor do I think in terms of "What Would Jesus Do?"

Not that there's anything wrong with that... Do Christians watch Seinfeld?
I tried Christian Mingle for a little while but never became a paying member. I made it clear in my profile that I'm not religious but follow Christian values and such. There are men there looking for women who do not regularly attend church because they themselves don't want to. And the divorced men on there have lengthy explanations of how Christian women are ignoring them because they don't believe in divorce but that the divorce was out of their control (spouse infidelity, etc.) My point is that there are some men there that are interested in a woman who may share their values but not be a regular church goer or who are being ignored or rejected due to their divorced status.

Honestly though the reason I stopped was because I also had older men continually contact me (in their mid 40's to 50's). I did have one guy find me in Match from there (he was tall, dark and handsome to boot), but decided not to meet him because he was too newly divorced and very busy with his 2 small children. But he was so nice to talk to and when we parted he said he hoped I find a man who will love me the way God wants me to be loved which I like to remember now and then. So worst case you'd probably meet some really nice people on there if you do decide to try it out.
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Not that there's anything wrong with that... Do Christians watch Seinfeld?
I can't speak for others, but, no I never did. Who wants to watch "a show about nothing" after all? Although, some of the lines from the show have seeped into the common vernacular, yadda, yadda, yadda.
 
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