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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #1  July 13,2011, 12:00pm
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It was suggested a while ago on this board that everyone should try going out to a nice restaurant by themself at least once. Well, I've done the solo movie thing, and I never thought I would do that! I survived ... I never, ever thought I would be a person who went to a restaurant by myslef... but an opportunity has come up for me to give it a shot... so, I'm going for it!

So, a friend of mine wants to meet for drinks/coffee later this evening. This is just a friend and not a potential (friend/ex hubby to be exact). I don't have a date tonight, and based on the time he wants to meet, and the location, I just thought this was the perfect opportunity to treat myself to a nice dinner before he arrives.

I've never done the solo restaurant thing, and kind of curious how you do it. Normally, for me on a date, dinner can last as long as 3-4 hours (or more!) depending on the conversation. I'm pretty sure the conversation will be a little on the dull side tonight ... so, dinner shouldn't take that long.

How long should I give myself for my solo dinner date?
Any thoughts on what I should take with me during the dinner for entertainment? I'm not reading any good books right now, but guess I could make an entire day of this date with myself and stop at the bookstore first ! Or, I have a couple of electronic game players and could bring one of those...
I've been texting with NSD (night-shift dude) during the evening, and could do that...

Have you gone on a date with yourself? Did you like it? I'm pretty sure I won't like it, but want to at least try something new!

I already have the restaurant picked out, so at least that want be an issue .

Hey, this might even be a good way of meeting someone IRL!! I haven't been open to that in a while .
 
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I have no problem going to restaurants/bars by myself to have dinner and a drink and then go home. You seem like it's going to be more adventurous, however...so good luck?
 
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I love doing the solo dinner thing because 1)You get the best service you will ever see. I think it is because they think you might be a mystery shopper or something. =P 2) I wouldn't take anything with you to entertain yourself because there is always a chance some cute guy will introduce himself if you are alone. But, if you have your head wrapped up in a book or something, one is less likely to approach. 3) Male waiter usually = some fun flirting. =)
 
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This reminds me of the Friends episode where Rachel is enjoying eating alone. And Chandler and Joey are telling her it's a bad, bad idea for a woman to eat alone. But Monica thinks it's great to treat yourself. In the end, Rachel decides to stop doing it but not before a guy she was interested in sees her eating alone and thinks she's weird for doing so. Then again the episode was filmed in the 90s!
 
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Xable wrote :
I love doing the solo dinner thing because 1)You get the best service you will ever see. I think it is because they think you might be a mystery shopper or something. =P 2) I wouldn't take anything with you to entertain yourself because there is always a chance some cute guy will introduce himself if you are alone. But, if you have your head wrapped up in a book or something, one is less likely to approach. 3) Male waiter usually = some fun flirting. =)
How in the world would you not take something to occupy your time?? What... do you just sit there as the appetizer is coming and look up at the sky? I like people watching and all that as much as the next girl... but c'mon. this will be a really short dinner!

Also, how long should I give for my solo date? An hour? Is that cutting it too short?
 
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How in the world would you not take something to occupy your time?? What... do you just sit there as the appetizer is coming and look up at the sky? I like people watching and all that as much as the next girl... but c'mon. this will be a really short dinner!

Also, how long should I give for my solo date? An hour? Is that cutting it too short?
I people watch and I smile.

And I eat my food.

Yes, it is really short dinner.
 
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Jussmiles, I want your life. Where are your kids while you and your ex meet? Do you have a live in nanny? How can you take a whole day off at the drop of a hat??

Your questions…depends on where you are eating and what you plan on eating. The one time I ate at a nice restaurant solo I would say I was there for over 2 hours. I sat at the bar and ended up talking to a nice man for most of my meal. If I remember right we shut the place down.
 
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jussmile, I treated myself to a solo dinner at a great restaurant when I finished hiking the Grand Canyon. Mmm... the most wonderful non-salty slow-roasted Niman Ranch pork tenderloin... I brought my iPhone and sent a few texts, but the wait staff is usually swift when you go solo so there was very little waiting around. And yes, there's people watching and nice restaurants usually have some ambiance to soak up, and perhaps a view to enjoy, too.
 
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If you sit at the bar, you can talk to the people around you. That's what I usually do if dining alone.
 
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Is there going to be a happy ending afterwords?
 
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