The First Thing Women Look For in Mr. Right

The First Thing Women Look For in Mr. Right

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blakehoo is offline blakehoo Post #61  October 14,2011, 5:23am
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OK, how about a fun guy your dads age but taller?
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blakehoo wrote :
OK, how about a fun guy your dads age but taller?
Is this post your way of soliciting younger women?
 
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harnomygirl wrote :
Is this post your way of soliciting younger women?

Ha Ha, What I meant was a fun, taller guy who's left handed...


FWIW: Harnomygirl shows me no slack.

But, Reading back, it has nothing to do with anything prior!
(Actually I think I skipped forward a few pages)
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
The article is wrong. The first thing women look for in a guy is height.
Correction; the 1st thing women look for in a guy is their ACTUAL height.

Guys, man up. Post your actual height. Stop posting 5 foot 10 when you are really 5 foot 7. I am 6 foot 3 and women tell me all the time they are happy I am actually 6 foot 3. Not that I am 6 foot 3, but that I am exactly what I say I am.

If you feel that bad about not being as tall as you would like, then just date short women. Do you honestly think she won't notice??
 
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First thing I look for is height. Then I glance at the "In my own words" section to see if they wrote more then just one line. Brevity is not your friend here... Then I look at occupation and THEN the photo. I am not one for looks. In my history the men that were the most handsome all treated me the worst... I'm not deathly tall but at 5'8", I would want a guy I can look up to who can stimulate me mentally first and foremost. I have canceled out quite a few men for being shorter then me, handsome and all...
 
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As a woman, I disagree. The first thing I look for in a man is intellect. Is he intelligent and quick witted? Or does he require I slow the pace of the conversation or need a lot of explanations?

Sure confidence is important, but there is a huge difference between confidence and arrogance! I went out with a guy a few times who was intelligent enough, but he assumed I was an idiot and felt the need to explain things to me that I already understood (as a doctor, I probably understood some things like health and health care issues better than he did).

A man can be shy and quiet and avoid eye contact at first and still be an excellent catch. As long as he can keep up with the conversation and contribute to it in a meaningful way (e.g. "Did you know that..?" or "In addition to X, Y is also true." or "I had a similar experience. Would you like to hear about it?") he is worth getting to know better.

Women really look for men who are able to listen, sincerely care about others, have the strength to admit when they are wrong (and apologize when they have messed up), and are more than willing to be emotionally supportive. One does not have to ooze confidence from every pore in order to possess these qualities. For those of you out there who have these qualities, keep looking! You will find a real woman who actually appreciates you (and not money, cars, houses, "looks," or other shallow stuff) in time.
 
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fantabulous wrote :
CAN ANYONE TELL ME WHY ALL OF THE MEN I'VE DATED IN THE PAST AND PRESENT ARE LEFT-HANDED? I DON'T KNOW THEY'RE LEFT-HANDED WHEN I MEET THEM.

People who are left handed tend to be more creative thinkers and are often artists, musicians, computer programmers, and engineers. If you are attracted to a specific mental "type" this may be why.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
The article is wrong. The first thing women look for in a guy is height.
Actually, you are incorrect. I am a woman and I could not possibly care less about how tall a man is or what he looks like (or even if he is disabled or not). I care about WHO he is as a person. I mean what does it matter if you look up, or down, or straight ahead when you kiss someone you love?

Most true women are the same way. It is the shallow "girls" who care about size, shape, color, appearance, material goods, and other things that really don't matter.
 
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Sammbabsit wrote :
The first thing shallow American females go for is someone who is tall, dark, and retarded. I have a graduate degree, am financially secure, and very loving (ask my two dogs and two cats), but all trashy American females have to do is see my height (5'3"), and it's time to move on.

Look in the mirror, females. What makes you so hot? You're nothing special, either. You can either be pretty or plain, but you're all HIDEOUS on the inside!
I'm mostly in agreement with your statements, except your statement that ALL women are hideous on the inside. There are probably as many hideous men on the inside as there are women. There are exceptions, on both sides. Keep an open mind to find them.

Yes, most people are superficial and immature. However, instead of looking at rejections from them as negative, look at it as a positive. If you truly seek a long-term relationship, you cannot get that with someone superficial and immature, and (sadly) the only way for you to know that is to see their behavior towards you. So you are eliminating the ones wrong for you. I highly encourage you to be honest about your height in your online profiles and be exactly who you are!

What's even weirder for me about my height is that I have tall genes. I'm 5'7" and my height growth stopped when I got mumps at age 13. My brother is 6'3" and he was 5'7" too at 13. Even my mom is 5'8". My kids are probably going to be very tall too.

However, my height never bothered me until I moved to the US and particularly started dating and got rejected based on my height alone (I am a double post-graduate with a fantastic career and a great life, but none of that mattered to most women I asked out). I don't think it is only the women in the US who are height-discriminating though. It's just that I was taller than most men in my country, even though my height growth stopped at 5'7", and women there saw me as a tall man.

I had exactly two first dates in my life until I was 30. Then I said screw it and worked on myself. I had one huge issue which I did not like about myself - too much body hair and facial hair. I got that lasered. I do look quite a bit feminine now, and I like it! What's interesting now is that women ask me out. I've had 8 women asking me out on dates in the last 6 months. I'm in my mid-30s now.

My guess is that when I looked hyper-masculine, women expected me to ask them out. They had the power in the "game", to reject me. Now I am perfectly comfortable with myself. I don't go around cocky or trying to demonstrate confidence, but I look more non-threatening and approachable. So the women ask me out. Their heights have ranged from 5'1" through 5'10". The women with Cinderella Complex avoid me, and that's good for me too! I'm happier as a result. Now I get to pick and reject.

Not all men believe in the myth of masculinity or in the myth that a woman must be weak, small, short, submissive, underling. They are the insecure men. There are men who are very comfortable with being exactly who they are, and not fit into stereotypes of masculinity. And I'm sure there are women who are attracted to masculinity more than the person inside the man. I don't want those women. I'm looking for an equal partner.
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docdragon wrote :
As a woman, I disagree. The first thing I look for in a man is intellect. Is he intelligent and quick witted? Or does he require I slow the pace of the conversation or need a lot of explanations?

Sure confidence is important, but there is a huge difference between confidence and arrogance! I went out with a guy a few times who was intelligent enough, but he assumed I was an idiot and felt the need to explain things to me that I already understood (as a doctor, I probably understood some things like health and health care issues better than he did).

A man can be shy and quiet and avoid eye contact at first and still be an excellent catch. As long as he can keep up with the conversation and contribute to it in a meaningful way (e.g. "Did you know that..?" or "In addition to X, Y is also true." or "I had a similar experience. Would you like to hear about it?") he is worth getting to know better.

Women really look for men who are able to listen, sincerely care about others, have the strength to admit when they are wrong (and apologize when they have messed up), and are more than willing to be emotionally supportive. One does not have to ooze confidence from every pore in order to possess these qualities. For those of you out there who have these qualities, keep looking! You will find a real woman who actually appreciates you (and not money, cars, houses, "looks," or other shallow stuff) in time.
I appreciate your re-opening this old thread.

You are right about the above. However, women also fear being lied to ...more than they fear not finding the right match.
Often women have been lied to so much that ...anything said that they cannot immediately understand becomes a "potential" lie.
If a man is too accomplished they'll wonder what he wants from them.

If he is too knowledgeable, he becomes a smart-ass.

What I've started to do is ...let them wonder.

I let them think the picture of myself and the president on my desk really is a Photoshop job.
Maybe one day, they'll find the little hand written notes on White House stationery.
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