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boschimsp is offline boschimsp — Advice Member-Moderator Post #11  June 14,2011, 9:31am
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I have no problem with HOT/HOT guys, I think it's where their attractiveness stands relative to mine. My personal experience is that a lot of guys seem to trade up when it comes to looks. So it just doesn't seem realistic that someone who is drastically more attractive than me, unless they are clueless about their looks, would be interested.

I've kind of come to accept this and have callibrated myself, especially in terms of online dating that many guys I would objectively think would be about my attractiveness level won't be interested because they are shooting higher. I guess luckily for me personality is a huge draw so I tend to be attracted to people who are very sexy to me, but who may not be society's HOT/HOT.
 
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And I should ask, because I am nosy, is this related to the guy in your recent thread? :-(
 
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I have never even wanted to date a HOT/HOT guy - that "10" as defined on anyone's list. The term that comes to mind is "out of my league". I don't think I could ever feel secure with that superhot guy. Especially that superhot guy who works as a bartender.
 
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HOT is good.
 
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So is there something to the "HOT/HOT" thing (vs. just "hot")?

Either way, it's not a bad tack really. In the initial stages of dating girls are infinitely replaceable to a guy who knows his market value and knows how to date. Add this to a narcissist and a girl has a big challenge on her hands.

Plus, people who trade solely or primarily on their looks (even outside dating; work, social circles, etc.) tend to be more broken and chaotic than average.
 
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Sparky68 wrote :
The "HOT" women I've dated are often the worst. I avoid them as a rule. I'm not saying there's not a "HOT" woman who isn't all that and a bag of chips but I've yet to see one that's all that. I'll take down to earth, well rounded and attractive inside and out over "HOT" any day.
The "down to earth, well rounded and attractive inside" qualities and being "HOT" are not mutually exclusive in my experience.
 
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tangochef wrote :
The "down to earth, well rounded and attractive inside" qualities and being "HOT" are not mutually exclusive in my experience.
When you're too down to earth a lot of men forget what you look like over time if they have you. That's a negative thing to say, but it seems true when I look around me.
 
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Raw_Truth wrote :
So is there something to the "HOT/HOT" thing (vs. just "hot")?
I've been wondering the same thing. I'm relieved to not be the only one. Is this some hip new lingo we're unaware of? a slash usually means "and" (hot and hot?) or means that the two words mean roughly the same thing, which doesn't work when it's the same word. The only other thing I could think of was that it was just an unusual way of denoting "hot hot", or "'hot' hot", i.e. hotter than hot.
 
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HOT/HOT relationships, IMO, often grow cold, particularly if the partner is NOT/NOT, and there is an imbalance in what s/he has to offer in the relationship.
 
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tangochef wrote :
The "down to earth, well rounded and attractive inside" qualities and being "HOT" are not mutually exclusive in my experience.
Yes, they are - don't you read the boards?
 
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