Flirting: How to Get the Girl Without Playing Games

Flirting: How to Get the Girl Without Playing Games

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seekerd is offline seekerd Post #1  May 28,2011, 10:13am
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 I think I have done my share of dating to know what works and what doesn't. In essence, here are my takeways from years of dating:1. The more manly you are the more attractive you will be to the ladies. The converse is also true for the ladies: the more feminine you are the more desirable you will be to the guys. Every time, women attract by their appearance, but can only keep the guys by their character.  This explains why nice guys who are less manly do not succeed with the ladies, and why hot girls with bad attitudes end up alone. 2. Understand women. Women need men's words of affirmation (it's music in their ears) and attention (it is pleasurable to them). Thus you should compliment them, and give them your undivided attention when you're with them. Women expect the men to lead. Thus, you should never ask a girl out without planning everything in advance. More than planning dates, men should also lead in other areas as well.4. All dates and conversations should have a purpose, and the man should steer the whole process along the predetermined purpose. If the man's intention is to be friends only, then he should aim for that; if it is to become a boyfriend, he should aim for that and nothing less. The man should be clear in his intentions and communicate such to the woman as confidently as possible. You don't need to walk on egg shells here. Say it as you feel it: tell her what you've seen in her that you find attractive; how it makes you feel, and what you would like to happen between the two of you (e.g. an exclusive relationship). Most of the times the woman will say no. Don't just accept that. Anticipate and counter all objections. Many times, unless the woman is taken, she will most likely give in. 5. Don't be afraid to set the woman straight if you think she's wrong on any issue. It is a mistake to assume the so-called equality, and try to be nice. Even if you have similar educational/social qualifications, you are the man here, and it's your duty to lead. Most women will not be attracted to an "equal" man, even though they claim that's what they want. They want a leader who takes charge and communicates his intentions fearlessly. 6. Since not all women will be attracted to you as a man, you should not take any so-called rejections as anything serious. Immediately withdraw from any woman who will not respect you, or not willing to seek what you're seeking, particularly after you've put in some effort. This means no calls, no "being friends", no compliments, no attention. Withdraw. 7. In all of this, you should be a true gentleman to the right woman, opening doors for her, helping her to her seat, paying for dinners, etc. But you must understand that it is your manliness (as expressed by clear intentions, boldness, leadership, etc), not your niceness, that will command her respect for you and attraction to you. Manliness has little to do with how rich, how educated, how handsome, how tall, how physically strong or how expensive your car is. Understand that, in reality, women need you more than you need them. So, most often, when rejected, it is her loss, not yours.For me, my major problem at this time (for which I am praying) is which of the beautiful women I'm talking to I will pick as a wife. Good luck to all.
 
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This is dated material......
 
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Ingytravel is offline Ingytravel Post #3  May 28,2011, 10:37am
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Please use paragraphs...it's difficult to read a post without them..
 
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dmi is offline dmi Post #4  May 28,2011, 10:47am
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Ingytravel wrote :
Please use paragraphs...it's difficult to read a post without them..
Looks like there is a difference between how responses are shown on the article and in the forums.

When I look at the first response on the article itself, it is a numbered list. When I see it in the forums, it is a wall of text.
 
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dmi wrote :
Looks like there is a difference between how responses are shown on the article and in the forums.

When I look at the first response on the article itself, it is a numbered list. When I see it in the forums, it is a wall of text.
Hmm..that is strange...I guess the OP could still just easily edit the one above to go to paragraphs since this is where most people will read it..but good to know..
 
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1. Somewhat - men want women and vice versa, though "manly" can be overdone.

2. Mostly - women do not think like men and goes much deeper than compliments.

3. Mostly - lead and don't worry about thie consequences - this is where many modern men fail in dating.

4. Mostly - know what you want and go after it but don't sacrifice if there are stark incompatibilities.

5. Somewhat - women do want to be led but leading is a wee bit more than telling her she's wrong.

6. Absolutely - if she isn't biting wish her well but she no longer exists; probably the best of all dating advice IMO for men.

7. Somewhat - again, mean want women but the implication of being "macho" gets the girl is a bit too strong.
 
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All that stuff may have worked in 2008 but what do I do in 2011?
 
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Angelkrista is offline Angelkrista Post #8  May 28,2011, 12:26pm
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2. Understand women.
Stopped here...no man does...LOL

No need for paragraphs.
 
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I can agree w/ much of this... well, maybe some of this... but the part about women needing men more than visa versa. Not so sure about that one. Women tend to do much better than men after losing a spouse to death or divorce. That much has been pretty well studied & established.
 
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Angelkrista wrote :
Stopped here...no man does...LOL

No need for paragraphs.
Tee hee
 
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