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cb858 is offline cb858 Post #1  May 7,2011, 11:37am
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That's a bit intimidating. So is "wanting someone who is up for a challenge" because he will challenge his partner "in many ways."


This is all new to me. Is this the norm?
 
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I would see this as poor writing, and possibly a lack of experience.

"Looking for a high quality partner" is - or ought to be - a standard expectation for everyone. Therefore, to announce it is pointless and thus stupid.

It also creates concern that the match has picked "low quality partners" in the past (bad screening / bad choices) or lacks the ability to attract quality (attempting to date out of their league.)

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Wanting a parter "up for a challange" is much healthier.

This is a a specific behavioral / personality attribute which is neither good nor bad in isolation, but might be a particular point of incompatibility if ignored.
 
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Was not normally with my matches on eHarmony. Though most were indeed challenging. And it would appear that I was not up to the challenge.
 
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Sounds more to me like he's looking for a tennis partner.



Ok, so I've been accused of having an irreverent, maybe slightly cynical, sense of humor.
 
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"Looking for a high quality partner"

Heh! Yeah, aren't we all!

Now get back in line and wait your turn like everybody else.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I would see this as poor writing, and possibly a lack of experience.

"Looking for a high quality partner" is - or ought to be - a standard expectation for everyone. Therefore, to announce it is pointless and thus stupid.

It also creates concern that the match has picked "low quality partners" in the past (bad screening / bad choices) or lacks the ability to attract quality (attempting to date out of their league.)

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Wanting a parter "up for a challange" is much healthier.

This is a a specific behavioral / personality attribute which is neither good nor bad in isolation, but might be a particular point of incompatibility if ignored.
That makes sense, but to say that he will challenge his partner "in many ways" is worded badly. My ex challenged me in many ways and that's why he's my ex
 
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cb858 wrote :
That's a bit intimidating. So is "wanting someone who is up for a challenge" because he will challenge his partner "in many ways."

This is all new to me. Is this the norm?
Ummm... sounds to me like he's looking for a woman to support him.

For some reason, "wanting someone who is up for a challenge" strikes me as vaguely... creepy. Dunno what to make of it.
 
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Appears he needs some one of high quality to meet his high-maintenance needs.
 
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Appears he needs some one of high quality to meet his high-maintenance needs.
THAT's what it is. I couldn't put my finger on the exact impression he was sending out. Exactly! He sounds high-maintenance.
 
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THAT's what it is. I couldn't put my finger on the exact impression he was sending out. Exactly! He sounds high-maintenance.
Actually, that was my very first thought when I read your original post: high-maintenance.

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