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A new company has developed a way to mine social networks for "dating data" from your account and use it to match you with other singles.

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What do you think of this idea? Could / would this work for you?
 
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I think this is an incredibly bad idea, especially basing it on sites like Facebook. I "like" a lot of pages on FB, for various reasons, that have absolutely nothing to do with my requirements for a life partner. My friends will post things all the time such as "Please like this page so my brother can win a prize!". OK, I'll help you/your brother out. What does that have to do with dating?

Facebook is insidious as a marketing tool anyway. You might notice the ads that pop up along the right hand side of the screen. The other day, I was typing something in my status bar, and I happened to write the word "Hotmail", and before I even finished typing, up popped an ad for Hotmail!

Big Brother is watching you... and determining who you should date based on what He observes... Creepy.
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
Big Brother is watching you... and determining who you should date based on what He observes... Creepy.
I had this same thought when I read the OP.

I am not on Facebook and it is unlikely that I will / would ever be on Facebook.

From what I have read in a great many posts on these Advice boards letting a match / date know that you are on Facebook with the intent of connecting to them there is a sure way to doom any budding relationship.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
From what I have read in a great many posts on these Advice boards letting a match / date know that you are on Facebook with the intent of connecting to them there is a sure way to doom any budding relationship.
I agree, and I have been burned by that before. I learned my lesson, and in the future, never, ever again will I friend any guy on FB that I am only "casually dating".

That being said, I don't think Facebook is "evil". It's a great way to stay in touch with people, and to let people know what I am up to. But, I would never want to use my "likes" to determine who is a suitable dating partner.
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
I think this is an incredibly bad idea, especially basing it on sites like Facebook. I "like" a lot of pages on FB, for various reasons, that have absolutely nothing to do with my requirements for a life partner. My friends will post things all the time such as "Please like this page so my brother can win a prize!". OK, I'll help you/your brother out. What does that have to do with dating?

Facebook is insidious as a marketing tool anyway. You might notice the ads that pop up along the right hand side of the screen. The other day, I was typing something in my status bar, and I happened to write the word "Hotmail", and before I even finished typing, up popped an ad for Hotmail!

Big Brother is watching you... and determining who you should date based on what He observes... Creepy.
Totally agree with the bolded part above!...Those things have little to do with what I am looking for in a partner..
 
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First off.. that guy looks creepy....


No.. on another hidden matching process where we have no clue how exactly we are being matched..

Now if eH wants to provide one or two daily or weekly "bonus matches" based off this technology, then I would give it a whirl..
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Hmmm.. i guess I'm against the grain as always. lol.

No it may not be perfect and thre may be things you do that have nothing to do with what yo'ure looking for in dating.... but what i go back to is this:

the way we've done it before hasn't been working. profiles specifically written for dating has not worked that well. why? because people usually "put on a show" on those profiles (without realizing it) and it's about writing what they want and what they like that "sounds good" that they hope will make people contact them.

Firstly, I"m not sure people truly know exactly what they want or what makes a difference for them in the end, they just write what they think they want or what sounds good (i mean really... does "walks on the beach" really determine who you've been successful with and not? and who DOESN'T want an "honest, mature, respectful" relationship and yet how many times have we ended up dating people who are dishonest, immature, and disrespectful?)

So... I find it intriguing that a matchign service would poll what you DO rather than what you conjure up to SAY on a regular basis to try to find matches. You don't get an opportunity to sell yourself, it just "figures you out" by your activity.

Yes there are some things you do that aren't related to you sometimes ~ but those things are in the minority (atleast I would like to think). And if they are not ~ well then maybe in a way it IS saying something about you that can be matched up with somebody else that you don't realize or have never thought says something about you (like.. "person likes to be online and get into games and help other people, is very active in responding with people they already know, not so much with strangers").

Anyway the main point being ~ look how successful things seem to be with us writing our own things and being frustrated/disappointed meeting others who we went on what they wrote themselves?

And in the end.. if we keep saying things like 'actions speak louder than words' ~ well this is basically taking that concept.

I'm intrigued. It may not work that well ~ but what's so bad bout trying somethign new and seeing if it does? Perhaps it'll surprise everybody.

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These are some of my "likes" on Facebook:

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HumanaWalkIt, I hate it when you find out Darth Vader is your father, God still loves me even though I don't forward those emails, AstroGraph Astrology Horoscopes, The Common Man, Tarot, Tanqueray, Facebook, Like it Like it, Daily Horoscope, Autism Speaks, Bali Intimates, The Twilight Saga, Ravelry, Knit Picks, Annie's Homegrown, Vogue Knitting, Daily Tarot Cards, Honda, Hawaii Blog, Famous Footwear, Astrology, Hungry Girl, Three Towers Solitaire, PayPal, The Transmission, Redbox, Just My Size, MW Bonus Checker, Mafia Wars Wiki, Red Heart Yarns, Weight Watchers, Audible Inc, Lion Brand Yarn, iTunes, Chunky's Cinema Pub, Greg and the Morning Buzz, Jungle Jewels, TALBOTS, Mafia Wars, T-BONES and Cactus Jack's, Bejeweled Blitz, Tanger Outlets, Mafia Wars, Lane Bryant, Honda Civic, New York & Company, Life is good.®, Fashion Bug, Stonyfield Farm, Kohl's, UnWine'd Restaurant, American Cancer Society Making Strides Against Breast Cancer, Five Guys Burgers and Fries, National Guard, Venus on Fire Mars on Ice, You cannot affect the past but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future, Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right. (Henry Ford), "I'd rather be 'hurt' by your honesty, than pleased by you 'lies'...., SchoolCare, Valentino's Restaurant, Klondike, Alec's Shoe Store, Canobie Lake Park, Trade Secret, I think that everything happens for a reason, and the things that happen make us who we are today., L.L.Bean, BodyMedia FIT, No, wait, hug me some more ❤, NEVER give up on someone you cant go a day without thinking about, ''Sorry can we just be friends?'' is like saying ''The dog died but can we keep it?'', Talking to an old friend makes you realize how much your life has changed., Knitting Club, Friends of T.O.Ps, Zynga Inc., eHarmony, The Rainbow, Small Business Saturday, Levi's, Macy's, Target, Old Navy, Proud to be an American, Dr Pepper, Kitty Angels, ChapStick, Used Book Superstore, The Athena's Cup, Let energy in Mafia Wars carry over when getting promoted to next level, Fly the American Flag, Hayward's Ice Cream, Wallace and Gromit, After LOST, Lean Cuisine, Purina Cat Chow, Pepsi, Curtis Knight's Karaoke, Kiyonna Clothing - Stylish Plus Size Women's Apparel, Teavana, Uno Chicago Grill, The Body Shop USA, Eddie Bauer, The Crazy Test!, Which Swear Word Are You?, How Dirty Is Your Mind?, Are You Optimistic Or Pessmistic?, CKE
So, I should be "matched" based on all of these things? Hmmm....
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Why not? What if some guy out there matches 80% of that?
Can you say with 100% certainty you'd not get along?

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mitchell175 wrote :
These are some of my "likes" on Facebook:



So, I should be "matched" based on all of these things? Hmmm....
Well...even though I am female...I would contact you based on the Five Guys Burgers...in fact...might propose..LOL...

LOVE THOSE!..whenever I splurge on a burger and fries once every few months...that is the only place I go!
 
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