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metarzanyoujane is offline metarzanyoujane Post #1  May 6,2011, 5:21am
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Two questions came to mind while posting....if you were in a relationship and one day saw that your date had posted what is going on in your relationship/dating life for all to discuss would you be mad or take it as a sign that they really care about the situation? Has such a thing ever happened here when someone is looking for advice and the other person responds themselves on the topic? Not that any of this has happened to me but I'm just wondering.
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I don't know if it has ever happened but I have thought about it. I figure my guy wouldn't be that pleased, hey, I wouldn't be pleased to find he was on here talking about us either. However, I wouldn't get mad or anything and hopefully, he would understand that the forum was pretty much a lifesaver for me. I don't have many girlfriends to discuss relationship stuff with and my mother isn't the best confidante.

Besides, a lot of the questions or issues are universal - the specifics are different - but would be hard to get offended at universal issues like how soon to be exclusive, what does this action mean, how fast is too fast, etc.
 
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Likely never to be an issue for me as I'd never seek advice on an internet forum about a major relationship issue. I may ask advice on really small things or relate to others by talking a bit about my relationship but I'd never betray her trust by going into detail.

It actually really surprises me that some of the questions asked on this forum are even asked here prior to the two people in the relationship actually talking about it (like 90% of responses to OPs seem to include something along the lines of "you need to talk about this with them").

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Two questions came to mind while posting....if you were in a relationship and one day saw that your date had posted what is going on in your relationship/dating life for all to discuss would you be mad or take it as a sign that they really care about the situation? Has such a thing ever happened here when someone is looking for advice and the other person responds themselves on the topic? Not that any of this has happened to me but I'm just wondering.
 
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metarzanyoujane wrote :
Two questions came to mind while posting....if you were in a relationship and one day saw that your date had posted what is going on in your relationship/dating life for all to discuss would you be mad or take it as a sign that they really care about the situation? Has such a thing ever happened here when someone is looking for advice and the other person responds themselves on the topic? Not that any of this has happened to me but I'm just wondering.
The thought has crossed my mind, what if the guys I meet read about themselves on here? Which is why, since this is a public message board, I choose to keep my profile anonymous, with no picture or location. I've had several stalker types that I've had to block and who knows, even my ex-husband could be reading this board
 
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I've had several stalker types that I've had to block
How did you block them? From my knowledge eHahaha does have such a feature? This could be useful..
 
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I have never understood why people don't discuss their problems with the ones it actually concerns! Of course there were plenty of people who did this prior to the online age, but it certainly has become easier now.

I'm not sure that I (personally) could abide by a partner that aired our dirty laundry in public.

Just sayin'...
 
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How did you block them? From my knowledge eHahaha does have such a feature? This could be useful..
She did not say that it was someone from the Advice boards that she had to block.
 
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[quote=TrekRyder10;1329557]How did you block them? From my knowledge eHahaha does have such a feature? This could be useful.. [/quote

The two sites I'm on have a blocking feature. When they send you mail, there's a link you click on to block them. My concern is they probably cruise on several sites, and may even read the board. Just to be on the safe side, I keep myself anonymous.
 
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Not exactly the same scenario that you are describing but something similar has happened on these Advice boards. There have been several couples who have met here on the Advice boards and formed serious relationships. They have shared some of their romantic path with the boards. Since they met here they obviously know each others screen name and could watch any posts made by their SO and also know any post history made by their SO prior to their becoming a couple. So for some people it is not that big a deal.
 
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The two sites I'm on have a blocking feature. When they send you mail, there's a link you click on to block them. My concern is they probably cruise on several sites, and may even read the board. Just to be on the safe side, I keep myself anonymous.
Thanks.. I thought you were talking about eHa. I am aware about blocking features on the other sites- use them often..
 
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