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mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #21  May 4,2011, 12:35pm
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Jato87 wrote :
Just another thought to add: Why does taking him to the ballgame need to be a surprise?? I don't think most men are as impressed with surprises as women seem to be.

Simply tell him early on that you want to take him to the ballgame on the 8th to celebrate his birthday. He'll likely spend some time looking forward to such a thoughtful gesture.
I have to agree with this. Some guys may like surprises, but it's kind of a let down on your birthday to be told "Oh, your gift is coming in another month. But, that's a surprise!". I'd rather have something to "open" on my birthday. So, giving the tickets in a card is a good idea. Otherwise, it's like opening up a gift with a page torn out of a catalog and the giver says "Oh, this is on order. But, you'll love it when you get it!".

And, at this stage of dating, consumables are good. Any kind of "trinket" is inappropriate if he's not yet your "boyfriend". I am a big fan of consumables for any kind of gift where you're not 100% sure what the giftee is going to do with it. For instance, for a favor for a shower, I hate getting some kind of "thing", like a candle holder with the date of the wedding engraved on it. What am I supposed to do with that? Unless it's a family member, I'm probably never going to display it. Go with the tickets.
 
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HowICIt is offline HowICIt Post #22  May 4,2011, 2:54pm

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I think you idea of the baseball tickets is sweet and just right.

Have fun and I hope it continues to go well for you.
 
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I had the issue of my boyfriend having his birthday 3 months into our relationship. Unfortunately I was going to be out of town on the actual day, but he came over the night before I left, and I had a card for him that was really just a sweet reminder that I was thinking about him. I then brought him a key chain from my vacation destination when I got back. That was enough. He didn't expect more than that.

My birthday isn't until September, so that will be about 9 months or so into our relationship, so I do expect something from him, but not huge, not to go overboard.

I love the idea of your gift of baseball tickets. Especially if it's something you know he likes, but haven't done yet. Put them in the card for him, that would be fun. How to find out if he is available the day of the game? I can't think of anything other than to ask directly, unless you know a friend of his who can find out for you, without giving it away, or something like that. Good luck.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I don't.
That doesn't surprise me.
 
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videojan is offline videojan Post #25  May 4,2011, 4:30pm
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clover87 wrote :
My question is, what do I do about a gift? Do I get him one, or just take him out for drinks or something? I was thinking about getting tickets to his favorite baseball team's game for a weekend in early June (tickets run about $25 each online). I thought it would be thoughtful, as he really likes the team, as well as be a fun date for us.
I just had this happen to me after dating a guy for 2 months. what made it worse was that his birthday was on Valentines day. he told me he has never celebrated valentine's day so there was no pressure there. I got him a gift because I was thinking if he was just a friend, I would get him something because that's how I am. Deep down inside however, I sort of resented that he never even said a word on Valentines day. I had lots of friends call, and even other potential dates...... just a phone call or something.... anyway we broke up a month later after because he just was not a thoughtful person. By all means, I think it is a good idea to give a gift. He will appreciate it if you do, but wonder why if you don't....
 
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I'm usually a thoughtful person but this same situation recently came up with me as well. We'd been dating not quite 2 months when his birthday rolled around. His birthday was a Monday, he spent the weekend out of town with his guy friends and plans for his birthday had not been discussed - he got back into town the day of. Also, I knew when his birthday was, but he had never asked when mine was so I assumed we maybe weren't at that stage yet. At the last minute he asked if I wanted to take him out for his Bday, unfortunately I had picked up a shift at work that night thinking we didn't have plans, and met up with him later. He ended up picking up the tab!! My birthday happened to be just over a month later and we'd had the exclusivity talk by then. I ended up receiving a very nice practical gift - I now wish I would have gotten him at least a little something.

Long story, sorry. But I'm definitely for acknowledging it in some way, even just a small gesture!
 
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I was seriously dating someone for about a month and a 1/2 when his birthday came around. He invited me to his friends party (not necessarily a birthday party but I wasn't sure). I spent a little over $60 for something I knew he'd like. He was surprised but one thing we did have in common is we both appreciate quality.

I hate to read too much into gifts but it is true that it tells the other person what you know about them and the kind of person you are. Do you give something that they will enjoy or do you give what you want him to be? I think it's best to give what he enjoys so a baseball game sounds great. How about taking him out for lunch/dinner and making a 'good for a game' coupon and he picks the date?
 
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