What do men really think about your "number"?


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mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #1  May 1,2011, 5:00pm
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I read this article recently about what men really think about a woman's "number" - that is, number of sex partners. How many is too many? How few is too few? And, does everyone actually know their number?

The article detailed some how some men thought about the subject. For instance, if she has a really high number, he is going to think sex is not that special for her, and therefore, he is not that special for her. Or, if she has a low number, he might worry that sex will not be casual for her.

It boiled down to 3 major issues:
1) What even counts toward your number?
Is this penetration only? Or does that include oral? Do certain things count as "more than one"? What about those naked nights where no actual "sex" happens? Or what about those nights where you plan for things to happen, but you have a half-masted attempt gone wrong?

2) How can you know if anyone is telling the truth?
According to the article, men report on average 6-8 partners, while women report on average, 4 partners. Mathematically, this is impossible. Men tend to round to whatever number they think you want to year. Women tend to shave a few off the top. Who can say who is telling the truth?

3) Is there ever really a "right" answer?
If you really "don't know", should you make up a number? Are you happy with your number? Do you wish it were lower? Or higher?

Personally, I believe in a "Don't ask, don't tell" policy about the specifics. But, I know this question is important to a lot of men.
 
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I don't think those are the men who matter.

1) What even counts toward your number?
A person with whom an intimate time was attempted or occured.

2) How can you know if anyone is telling the truth?
You can't - which is one reason this is a stupid question.

3) Is there ever really a "right" answer?
An honest answer is "right." As is no answer.

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If you are clean of STI's that's all that matters to me.
 
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I never did mind about the little things.

...and this is a little thing.

Just sayin'...
 
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The lower the better. Nobody wants a woman with a high number. Even men with a high number don't want a woman with a high number.

1) What even counts toward your number?
Anything

2) How can you know if anyone is telling the truth?
With mind reading.

3) Is there ever really a "right" answer?
The right answer is 0.
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Uhhmmm...I never had a man with the bad manners to ask.

StuckOnYou wrote :
I never did mind about the little things.


StuckOnYou wrote :
Just sayin'...


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1) What even counts toward your number?
In my book only one thing counts..penetration. Who has time to recall everything else. It's not like I'm keeping a journal for every boob I've seen or touched..

2) How can you know if anyone is telling the truth?
polygraph test

3) Is there ever really a "right" answer?
I'm a virgin?

3a. does everyone actually know their number?

Nope

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A 'number doesn't bother me at all, as long as the person is disease free..
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mitchell175 wrote :
2) How can you know if anyone is telling the truth?
In my experience, every woman who's given me a low number later turned out to have ThatOneDidntCount-itis. I also know two active women in college who became "virgins" when they became engaged to conservatives.

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1) What even counts toward your number?
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The lamest excuse a woman's given me--"It was only one time and I didn't like him so it didn't count." She also unsuccessfully tried the save, "But you didn't really only have N partners, right?"

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3) Is there ever really a "right" answer?

Honesty, as in most things. If you tell me you've only been with two or three guys because you only believe in sex with people you love and then I later discover ::ahem:: for example when I visit your hometown and run into an old friend that you were a bit more active than that I lose my trust and respect for you. I'm okay with inexperienced or experienced partners. Both have perks, so don't pretend to be what you're not.
 
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All I am concerned about is that they are have been tested and cleared of STI's.
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