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Do you find it hard to reject someone's advances without becoming uncomfortable or feeling "passive-aggressive"? Learn how to say "Thanks, but no, thanks" nicely.
 
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5vera is offline 5vera Post #2  April 30,2007, 9:46pm
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Good useful, informative input! I needed that! Thank you.
 
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18Chris is offline 18Chris Post #3  May 1,2007, 2:49pm
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It's all good information but what about when the person insisits that you don't know them on a relationship level and you don't know how good they are for you and that you should give it a shot and so on and so on...it's really hard at that point, especially when you want to maintain a friendship level.
 
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27Pat is offline 27Pat Post #4  May 1,2007, 3:30pm
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I am the person who gets sucked into a relationship I didn't really want because I don't know how to say No. My questions now is what is the best way to get out of it.
 
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Ouch! This hurt. Explains a lot of what I've been going through with my current squeeze. I find it very diffucult to break up after putting my heart into making "this One"work. Do I expect to much? Being a friend, and only a friend until that spark hits, is usually my downfall.
 
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I agree with a lot of what the article is saying, however, when you are dealing with other cultures and societies, it makes it really hard to make the other person understand. It's especially difficult when they can't understand, and the feelings are misunderstood. I find I have to be rude, for them to get the hint.

Being conscious of everyone, and acknowledging their presence can backfire, I am still learning to be careful, for it's a strong tool.
 
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Yes. But what do you do when you are a compassionate person, and the one you are rejecting threatens to harm himself? I understand this is manipulation, but I wouldn't ever want to be the cause of someone doing harm to their self.
 
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I'm with Pat, is it really ok to say ' this just isn't working'
 
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153Carla is offline 153Carla Post #9  May 1,2007, 6:44pm
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Great article. Very helpuful
 
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171Vicki is offline 171Vicki Post #10  May 1,2007, 7:12pm
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I'm with Pat and Laurie, what do you say in order to get out of a situation you've already begun to be involved with?
 
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